Comments on: I’m Not Bad, I Just Blog That Way

By: Boy Crazy

Boy Crazy — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 02:00:49 +0000

I knew I liked you.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 16 May 2007 19:28:00 +0000

I absolutely love this post…

(um yeah, sorry but it’s a boring comment because I can’t think of how else to elaborate on it. heh.)

By: Momish

Momish — Thu, 10 May 2007 20:12:00 +0000

I love this post! It is so true and I really love that you are just as proud of your badness as your goodness. It is true, that when we sit down to blog, a filtering process goes on where the bad or insecure or anxious always wins as the more interesting to write about; but also, it is the part of us that requires the validation, the comfort and the need to know we are not alone. My good mothering needs no reassurance or applause. The other part… well…

By: Jo

Jo — Tue, 08 May 2007 15:47:00 +0000

*sigh* I’m afraid I’m just as boring in real life as I am on my blog. Also just as honest, curse just as much, and I’m really that big of a bitch as you see on our medical blog. LOL

I’m afraid of what an alter ego of me would be like. I think I’d make myself sick!

By: Damselfly

Damselfly — Mon, 07 May 2007 17:35:00 +0000

Good can be boring unless it’s in the hands of a really talented writer, I guess! Love your post.

By: Mad Hatter

Mad Hatter — Mon, 07 May 2007 16:45:00 +0000

I’m a freakin’ fantastic mom who screws up a lot and who recently swore off meta-bloggin for a while and therefore will need to end this comment here.

By: Haley-O

Haley-O — Mon, 07 May 2007 15:06:00 +0000

Oh, WE definitely like you — anxieties and all. I’m a lot like my blog persona — when you really get to know me. People who meet me for the first time think I’m much more serious and “intellectual” than I portray myself on my blog. I think every side of me comes out on my blog — my darkest is definitely there, my lightest-humoured is definitely there. I can’t write except as myself — I ran into a problem with that recently with a trolly comment. But, it’s all good now.

By: Tere

Tere — Fri, 04 May 2007 23:06:00 +0000

I've been thinking about this since I read it yesterday, and to respond, I have to cheat a little. I touched on this topic a few months ago here.

But that post had more to do with how others perceive me, so I'd like to expand on my thoughts by saying that I try to be as "myself" as possible, but because there are certain places I won't go (my marriage, sex talk, childhood traumas), I'm aware of a need to play up certain aspects of my personality. On the one hand, no one blog could ever capture "me", especially all of me. On the other, the real me can be pretty damn boring. So I think it's o.k. to take certain aspects of myself (my tendency to over-analyze everything my paranoia, my sense of humor, etc) and extrapolate on those. In the post I wrote about this, I used the term "caricature" - I'm not sure if that's the best word but it'll have to do for now.

Also, I can't stress how important humor is to me. Even when it might not read as funny, as I'm writing, I'm usually in a funny, humorous mood, and I use that to expand on my brand of humor.

Like you, HBM, I'm a writer. I see my blog(s) as a chance to become a better writer, find my voice(s), etc. I started blogging as "myself" after 6 years in anonymity, and I see it as an experiment of sorts. Also, free therapy.

So basically, I'm me, but a slightly more manic me. I reveal a lot, but not everything. If I had to put it in numbers, I'd say it's 80% "self" and 20% me being an actress.

By: Sandra

Sandra — Fri, 04 May 2007 17:56:00 +0000

Oh how I have missed your blog.

And oh how I know what a phenomenal mother you are … good just isn’t the right word.

No one is a perfect parent. No one.

And re blog persona … that is a very thought-provoking post. In many ways I am a what-you-see-is-what-you-get kind of blogger because my blog is nothing more than a personal blog that is totally selfish working out the voices in my head. I give the good and the bad. There are several topics I don’t blog about for a lot of reasons (mostly to protect other’s privacy) but on the whole anyone who knows me well would say my persona is also my person. How boring

By: gingajoy

gingajoy — Fri, 04 May 2007 16:25:00 +0000

well you KNOW i fucking love this post. LOVE LOVE LOVE. tra la la la la.

dammit. i might just have to answer your questions now.

what i *will* say is that although many of us write about the "bad,' don;t we all *know* we're really rather good? that this is a persona, a way to connect, a way to level the playing ground and share?

hmmm. lots to think about.