Comments on: Lady Of The Rings

By: TheMacMommy

TheMacMommy — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 06:08:00 +0000

Allergies, PMS and now reading this post, I give up, can’t keep my eyes dry lately. Thanks for this. I told my husband I didn’t need/want an engagement ring (even though I secretly wanted one but am too “practical” to let him spend all that money on one) and instead he gave to me a necklace that had belonged to his grandmother. It had the hands of Fatima on it with a piece of turquoise in the center. I wore this necklace in place of a traditional engagement ring. “Had” — yes, I lost it. I lost it while we were visiting the Grand Canyon. I was devastated and felt ill. My husband’s mother made me feel better about it though by giving me another necklace that was my husband’s grandmother’s to replace it. She said it was just a piece of jewelry and even though a family heirloom with sentimentality attached to it, she said she rather it had been worn, loved, cherished and lost than have that necklace sit in a box somewhere never being enjoyed. It made me feel a little bit better but now I guard this necklace with my life and when my son was born, I stopped wearing it for fear he might rip it off of my neck and I’d lose it again. I’m very terrified of losing my wedding band. I’m constantly fiddling with my finger to make sure it’s still there, for the past 4 years. It’s kind of a little twitch and I don’t notice I do it as much anymore.

I don’t know, something about your post made me feel a little more relaxed though that even if I did lose it, your words put things into perspective a little better.

Thanks.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 15:30:00 +0000

another beautiful post catherine.LAVANDULA

By: Gold

Gold — Sun, 30 Mar 2008 15:36:00 +0000

Yes that’s a very healthy attitude. I’d be sick with regret. any way thanks for this article.

By: mothergoosemouse

mothergoosemouse — Sun, 30 Mar 2008 04:46:00 +0000

It’s not that I don’t think all of your other favorite things are wonderful, but I love that chair and the red wall behind it.

By: Malone!

Malone! — Sun, 30 Mar 2008 04:37:00 +0000

You are a much bigger Mom than me. Your attitude is healthy and touching.

By: Mom101

Mom101 — Sun, 30 Mar 2008 03:02:00 +0000

I think an amazing sign of maturity is being able to distinguish the stuff from the stuff it represents.

That said, I don't have a wedding band, but for one brief day I thought I had lost the one that used to be my grandmother's. Crushing.

Nice flashback C.

By: Izzy

Izzy — Sat, 29 Mar 2008 22:03:00 +0000

I wear my grandmother’s wedding ring as my wedding ring. I didn’t want a new one because this one was so beautiful and sentimental. Before having babies, it used to be a bit loose and I lost it once, only to find it in a bag of clothes I was about to give away. Yikes!

And your counted your kitty. That’s so sweet. I’m a cat person, in case you couldn’t tell

By: Daisy

Daisy — Sat, 29 Mar 2008 18:11:00 +0000

Sniff. Sigh. I, too, lost my ring when we moved. My husband doesn’t wear his because he works with electronics, and it’s a safety hazard. We’re still very, very married, and very much in love. Your story speaks volumes.

By: ~Dawn~

~**Dawn**~ — Sat, 29 Mar 2008 18:07:00 +0000

This is such a beautifully written post.

By: Minnesota Matron

Minnesota Matron — Sat, 29 Mar 2008 15:18:00 +0000

Yes, you’re right. I feel the same, except for one thing — when I was 5, my father gave me a silver ring shaped into the world LOVE with a tiny diamond on the i. He left our family a few weeks later and I didn’t see him again until I was 11, then not again till 18. He died at a relatively young age, too, so he’s gone from my life once again. But I still have that ring.