Comments on: Joy, And Pain

By: Tiaras & Tantrums

Tiaras & Tantrums — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 16:02:00 +0000

HEAR HEAR!!
Beautiful POST!!!

By: Duff

Duff — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 13:10:00 +0000

I was really glad you posted the now regretted post. It made me feel a bit more human as a mom for my experience. Because no one ever told me about breastfeeding as honestly as you did in that post.

Give yourself a pat on the back for perservering. I didn't, and I'm still not quite at peace with it.

Chin up! (that's to both of us, and all moms).

By: Kelly

Kelly — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 00:34:00 +0000

Beautiful and heartfelt. Simply put, I’ve done both: bottle and breastfed. Though both were intimate acts, I can say with certainty which one stays with me as something intense and primal. The first 5 weeks were a desperate struggle of pain and breastfeeding complications. Once we were past that, good Lord, the beauty of that relationship still floors me to this day.

By: ame i.

ame i. — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 21:30:00 +0000

I think expectant moms need to hear about the dificulties some go through with nursing, healing, etc. I was very lucky when it came to nursing my 2 daughters. I was hesitant to try with my first and even let the nursery give her a bottle a couple of hours after she arrived because the c-section was horrible and I was exhausted. I half-heartedly tickled her cheek with my nipple and was surprised how well she caught on.
If expectant moms took all “horror stories” to heart, the human race would have died out a long time ago
A warning I do pass on to others: make darn sure you are numb before a c-section. I had an epidural and thought it was “natural” that I was regaining some feeling before surgery. I suggest women give themselves a mighty pinch on the tummy before the start of a c-section. If I had done that, it would have saved me alot of screaming and some nurses the trouble of restraining my husband to prevent him from entering the OR.

By: followthatdog

followthatdog — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 15:14:00 +0000

I can identify with both the rough starts and the ecstasy of success. For something so natural and healthy, it can be pretty hard to figure out at first. But I am firmly in the camp that if you can get it going right, it is very much worth it, for both people involved.

Hop things continue to go better for you.

By: zellmer

zellmer — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 01:50:00 +0000

I had a hard time with my first baby, and like you, saw blood in my pumped milk due to cracked nipples. But the soreness went away after six weeks and when I tried to wean her at six months, I was such an emotional wreck that I had to continue. She could have weaned just fine, but I couldn’t. What you describe, so very well, is one of the greatest joys of motherhood. (Once they heal, of course.)
I miss the nursing more than anything.

By: Des

Des — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 16:34:00 +0000

I am one of those moms who sailed through breastfeeding, so there is hope out there! But I also got incredibly fat and swollen with horrible morning sickness and 15 hours of labor. So I think I deserved one thing easy

By: Beck

Beck — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 15:28:00 +0000

It will truly get easier. Really. And there is nothing sweeter in the whole world than a sweet baby breastfeeding, nothing at all.

By: Mandy

Mandy — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 14:47:00 +0000

I am so glad you are feeling better.

And I loved the Rilke post. One of my favourite writers.

All the best.

By: Maman

Maman — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 14:45:00 +0000

Why should you regret posting something that you actually felt at the time you were posting it?

Because it is perpetuating the myth that motherhood is all sunshine, flowers and babies farting perfume?

Some days it sucks and it is hard. But we do what we do because we think it is important and worthwhile.

The end.