Fussypants and Sweetney have kissed and made up. Everyone please resume life as usual. Thanks.

and have a good holiday.

Someone who runs a website that basically repackages information found on other celebrity blogs

and

Rolls out another tired “mom reviews” website (Cool Mom Picks, Sundry Buzz, Mightywhatever)

called another blogger derivative.

Fuck I’m happy I have a real job.

I forgot to say that I hadn’t heard of you until Sweetney linked you at the Johnson & Johnson thing saying “Nether Home” on video and I knew I’d found a kindred spirit. Smart girls rock.

A few things…

First, I would not have thought much about Sweetney’s comments until the “parasitic” tweet came through. The others, to me, seemed normal snarky Sweetney that I love to read because of said snarkiness. That one crossed the line, passing just “opinion, and into mud slinging, imo.

Second, to debate the actual comments, I totally disagree that there are similarities, other than “fussy” being part of the name. It was frustrating to me that Fussypants was compared to Bossy because of her photoshopping, when many MANY have done that before even Bossy came along. Fussypants was also compared to Amalah’s Smackdown, which I have loved forever and ever amen, but said comparison totally perplexed me. I don’t know if this was the implication, but I don’t agree that only one person can talk about fashion or beauty in a funny way or else be considered copying. Then there was the comparison to Dooce, which is weird and maybe I misunderstood and Sweetney was referencing her own comparisons to Dooce by others in the past, but I can’t be sure. At any rate, Dooce didn’t invent sarcasm.

I have heard from other bloggers prior to this whole thing, that they believed Fussypants copied Bossy, but I just can’t get on board. It feels like they are picking on someone just because they don’t like them as a person (because she’s not snarky or because she talks about her faith or because she’s just not like them), which is their right, but I just disagree. Even in Fussypants’ post responding she says that she adored Sweetney. Let’s not discuss the Fussypants commenters, because they made me cringe.

Also, I actually am REALLY glad that Sweetney came on here saying she’s not a Mean Girl. When I saw the parasitic thing, it rang mean girl-ish only b/c she’s “popular”. I know she doesn’t see herself that way, but she is nonetheless. I was disappointed in the tweet, but I’m really happy for this post and her response.

For me, the only reason the whole A-list stuff even came to mind was not because of traffic or elite-type attitudes, but because it sometimes feels like bigger bloggers assume EVERYONE must know who the big bloggers are. I haven’t ever read Fussy or heard of her. Bossy is very new to me. I have no idea if I’m copying anyone, because I’m just being me, and no I did not do a thorough search and background check and sniff test before naming my blog. I just picked a name and ran. I think Sweetney’s point was that the “copying” was intentional, hence the parasitic comment, but all it takes is reading a few Fussypants posts to see that any copying (which I don’t think is there) is unintentional. I know our opinions differ. No big deal.

Finally, I know everyone is saying how this “worries” them, and I don’t know how I feel about blogging anymore blah blah blah, but I don’t feel that way. I know we all would like to avoid drama, but I come from a family that talks/fights/yells it out and we are all closer afterwards. Pretending like things aren’t going on is anything but helpful. As much as I don’t agree with the call out being public, with no communication to the actual person you are calling out, I do think this all can benefit us if we want it to. I hope that people can see that talking about stuff isn’t bad, and that in the future people from both sides can avoid taking things so low. Neither side deserves it.

I hope you meet some of you at Blogher!

In awe.