Comments on: Lost Boy http://herbadmother.com/2008/08/lost-boy/ Bad Is The New Good Wed, 23 May 2012 11:54:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: OneHotMama http://herbadmother.com/2008/08/lost-boy/comment-page-6/#comment-28375 OneHotMama Wed, 06 May 2009 14:32:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=545#comment-28375 I cannot emphasize enough that you should fill out search forms with the BC Department of Women & Children's Services--give them all the information you have--they will search. It might take time, it took 6 years to fine my bio-fam...and I am so glad I did, my birth mom had wanted to search but was afraid to...DO IT!!! I cannot emphasize enough that you should fill out search forms with the BC Department of Women & Children's Services–give them all the information you have–they will search. It might take time, it took 6 years to fine my bio-fam…and I am so glad I did, my birth mom had wanted to search but was afraid to…DO IT!!!

]]> By: Cindy http://herbadmother.com/2008/08/lost-boy/comment-page-6/#comment-28365 Cindy Wed, 06 May 2009 04:54:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=545#comment-28365 I just found your blog through amalah, and wanted to add a quick comment ... <br /><br />Sometimes it all works out perfect.<br /><br />I was adopted at 3 months ... my adoptive parents are the most wonderful, nurturing people, and almost 10 years ago (age 23) I had the fantastic good fortune of reuniting with my birthmother and her family.<br /><br />I can never thank her enough for her sacrifice ... I realize that of all the choices to be make, she made the hardest.<br /><br />She is a wonderful person, with a wonderful family -- who have all been incredibly accepting of both me and my whole family.<br /><br />This has truely been a story of everything working out perfectly!! And although she'll never be 'Mom' -- she is "Grandma" to my Daughter and Son -- and more special to me than I can express.<br /><br />I don't mean to sound either simplistic or sappy about it, but just wanted you to know that sometimes it all really does work out!!<br /><br />Good luck in your search! I hope you find everything you're looking for! I just found your blog through amalah, and wanted to add a quick comment …

Sometimes it all works out perfect.

I was adopted at 3 months … my adoptive parents are the most wonderful, nurturing people, and almost 10 years ago (age 23) I had the fantastic good fortune of reuniting with my birthmother and her family.

I can never thank her enough for her sacrifice … I realize that of all the choices to be make, she made the hardest.

She is a wonderful person, with a wonderful family — who have all been incredibly accepting of both me and my whole family.

This has truely been a story of everything working out perfectly!! And although she’ll never be ‘Mom’ — she is “Grandma” to my Daughter and Son — and more special to me than I can express.

I don’t mean to sound either simplistic or sappy about it, but just wanted you to know that sometimes it all really does work out!!

Good luck in your search! I hope you find everything you’re looking for!

]]> By: Goodson Family http://herbadmother.com/2008/08/lost-boy/comment-page-6/#comment-27997 Goodson Family Tue, 21 Apr 2009 05:22:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=545#comment-27997 Best of luck in your search.<br /><br />I was adopted at birth. I am now re-connected with my birthmom. In fact, we just went to a yoga class together this evening. She's not my best friend, but we get along just fine.<br /><br />I also met my birthdad in person once, and conversed with him lots over the internet before he passed away.<br /><br />And I have just recently began building a relationship with my bio-half-brother.<br /><br />The main thing I want to say is: growing up, even though I didn't know much about my birthmom and didn't have any desire to find her, I never had ill feelings towards her. I never had hate or rage. <br /><br />May your mom have hope in her heart. And may you find that sweet baby wrapped in the blanket, all grown up and ready for a mature re-connection. Best of luck in your search.

I was adopted at birth. I am now re-connected with my birthmom. In fact, we just went to a yoga class together this evening. She’s not my best friend, but we get along just fine.

I also met my birthdad in person once, and conversed with him lots over the internet before he passed away.

And I have just recently began building a relationship with my bio-half-brother.

The main thing I want to say is: growing up, even though I didn’t know much about my birthmom and didn’t have any desire to find her, I never had ill feelings towards her. I never had hate or rage.

May your mom have hope in her heart. And may you find that sweet baby wrapped in the blanket, all grown up and ready for a mature re-connection.

]]> By: Smiling, Beguiling http://herbadmother.com/2008/08/lost-boy/comment-page-6/#comment-27835 Smiling, Beguiling Mon, 13 Apr 2009 21:05:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=545#comment-27835 Thanks for sharing your story here C, it's VERY nice to read an adoption story from a siblings point of view ... I got to read your mom's story too, which was equally beautiful.<br/><br/>I was relinquished in 1967, the fourth & last child of my birthmother, the third that she'd given away for adoption. I've found her, my two relinquished brothers, and the sister that she kept. I ALWAYS wanted to know where I came from, who I looked like, what my medical history was(is). For me, search was a necessity. It isn't for all adoptees.<br/><br/>I'm lucky to have a good relationship w/ my siblings. I think it was easier for us b/c A) we instantly LIKED each other and B) there wasn't any mother-child weirdness. My birthmother is complicated, but I do love her and I'm grateful to her every day for bringing into this world so I could be w/ my adoptive mom.<br/><br/>I wish you all the best in finding your brother, and whatever the final outcome is when you do, just know that there WILL be peace in it.<br/><br/>HUGS Thanks for sharing your story here C, it's VERY nice to read an adoption story from a siblings point of view … I got to read your mom's story too, which was equally beautiful.

I was relinquished in 1967, the fourth & last child of my birthmother, the third that she'd given away for adoption. I've found her, my two relinquished brothers, and the sister that she kept. I ALWAYS wanted to know where I came from, who I looked like, what my medical history was(is). For me, search was a necessity. It isn't for all adoptees.

I'm lucky to have a good relationship w/ my siblings. I think it was easier for us b/c A) we instantly LIKED each other and B) there wasn't any mother-child weirdness. My birthmother is complicated, but I do love her and I'm grateful to her every day for bringing into this world so I could be w/ my adoptive mom.

I wish you all the best in finding your brother, and whatever the final outcome is when you do, just know that there WILL be peace in it.

HUGS

]]> By: chermonblie http://herbadmother.com/2008/08/lost-boy/comment-page-6/#comment-27802 chermonblie Wed, 08 Apr 2009 17:49:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=545#comment-27802 Oh Catherine... this is such a touching story. I will send tons of good thoughts out that you find your long lost brother. Please keep us posted so that we can share in the good news! Oh Catherine… this is such a touching story. I will send tons of good thoughts out that you find your long lost brother. Please keep us posted so that we can share in the good news!

]]> By: Maura http://herbadmother.com/2008/08/lost-boy/comment-page-6/#comment-27636 Maura Fri, 27 Mar 2009 18:36:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=545#comment-27636 I found this post through a link at Bitch PhD today. Just wanted to let you know that my mother, too, relinquished a child for adoption. A girl, in 1961.<br/><br/>I always wanted to look for her, but my mom said it might kill her to meet her and find that she hated her for giving her up. It was pain enough to lose her.<br/><br/>Thankfully, joyfully, she found us. She had hired a detective who got access to records he had no legal right to have, and I'm so grateful he did. She brought great joy to my mother and we have a good, though tentative relationship. <br/><br/>I wish you luck in your search. I found this post through a link at Bitch PhD today. Just wanted to let you know that my mother, too, relinquished a child for adoption. A girl, in 1961.

I always wanted to look for her, but my mom said it might kill her to meet her and find that she hated her for giving her up. It was pain enough to lose her.

Thankfully, joyfully, she found us. She had hired a detective who got access to records he had no legal right to have, and I’m so grateful he did. She brought great joy to my mother and we have a good, though tentative relationship.

I wish you luck in your search.

]]> By: Jaden Paige http://herbadmother.com/2008/08/lost-boy/comment-page-6/#comment-27559 Jaden Paige Thu, 26 Mar 2009 12:58:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=545#comment-27559 Wow... this story is so touching, so powerful... Whatever happened? Did you find him yet?<br/><br/>I hope so. I pray for your mother to know, from his mouth, that she made the right choice... And that he understands. Wow… this story is so touching, so powerful… Whatever happened? Did you find him yet?

I hope so. I pray for your mother to know, from his mouth, that she made the right choice… And that he understands.

]]> By: St http://herbadmother.com/2008/08/lost-boy/comment-page-6/#comment-27533 St Thu, 26 Mar 2009 01:35:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=545#comment-27533 My mom wants me to find her son. We talked about it once some eight years ago. I have NO IDEA how to find him. I'm going to read all these comments in hopes someone has left you some hints... My mom wants me to find her son. We talked about it once some eight years ago. I have NO IDEA how to find him. I’m going to read all these comments in hopes someone has left you some hints…

]]> By: Al_Pal http://herbadmother.com/2008/08/lost-boy/comment-page-6/#comment-27258 Al_Pal Mon, 23 Mar 2009 06:41:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=545#comment-27258 Oh, goodness! A friend of mine gave up her first child when we were teenagers. She wasn't with the father anymore and found a nice couple to adopt the child. We've mentioned the birth date to one another occasionally, but I think she is mostly focused on her husband and family. It was an open adoption but the adopting couple really wanted to feel the child was just theirs.<br/><br/>Good luck in your search! Oh, goodness! A friend of mine gave up her first child when we were teenagers. She wasn’t with the father anymore and found a nice couple to adopt the child. We’ve mentioned the birth date to one another occasionally, but I think she is mostly focused on her husband and family. It was an open adoption but the adopting couple really wanted to feel the child was just theirs.

Good luck in your search!

]]> By: Nicole http://herbadmother.com/2008/08/lost-boy/comment-page-6/#comment-25171 Nicole Thu, 15 Jan 2009 01:17:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=545#comment-25171 Have you tried making a facebook group?<br/>I've seen similar things out there -- that's how my mom found her husband's son.<br/><br/>Good luck with everything :)<br/><br/>I know it's a long shot but my Aunt worked at a hospital in Vancouver around that time and I'm going to ask her if it could have possibly been that one.. maybe she would have some ideas for you.<br/><br/>All the best :) Have you tried making a facebook group?
I’ve seen similar things out there — that’s how my mom found her husband’s son.

Good luck with everything :)

I know it’s a long shot but my Aunt worked at a hospital in Vancouver around that time and I’m going to ask her if it could have possibly been that one.. maybe she would have some ideas for you.

All the best :)

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