Look At Me Not Sleeping

November 6, 2008

Update below.

I haven’t slept in four nights.

Which, you know, isn’t totally bad, considering that until about four weeks ago, I’d gone nearly five months averaging only three or four hours sleep a night, every night. New mothers don’t sleep. That’s just a fact.

But when you’ve passed that ‘fourth trimester’ grace period – wherein, it seems, Nature gives you a pass on needing sleep and proper nutrition and enables you to function like a superhero, leaping over the newborn weeks in a single bound, fueled by the nitro-force of a wicked hormone buzz – when you hit the wall, somewhere around week 13, the lack of sleep catches up with you and no amount of cinnamon rolls and double-shot espressos will set you to right. So you set about pursing sleep with a vengeance (so appropriate, that idiom – you chase sleep hoping to tackle it and wrestle it and punish it for so cruelly withholding its gifts) and when you finally get some (oh yeah) through some combination of spousal support and anti-anxiety medication you cling to it desperately, desperately, determined to never let it slip your grasp again.

And then when it does slip your grasp, you go to pieces.

Four nights it’s been; four nights of wrestling a vibrating baby who is development-spurting at the speed of light and spending his nights rolling and crawling oh god help me around his crib – or, when the victory squawking has become too much, in our bed – in pursuit of some invisible gold ring that I assume hovers magically just beyond his reach. Four nights of spending hours trying to get him to just be still, to just chill out, to save the gymnastics and the glee-clubbing until the morning, please oh god please, only to have him settle into something approximating a sleepy calm at the precise moment that the preschooler wakes up coughing and hollering about her nose hurting.

I’m so tired that I can’t see straight. And I just can’t see any solution. Crying it out doesn’t work because he seems to have an infinite capacity for wakefulness and so can outcry, outsquawk, outholler, outlast us with little effort. Bringing him into bed with us doesn’t work because although he’s more likely to take a few sleep breaks from his gymnastics practice when he can crawl up tight against my breast, he never actually stills, and so even though he snoozes while he’s cuddled up against me he also kicks me in the ribs and/or punches me in the head every few minutes and that’s, you know, not conducive to sleep.

The husband does all of the actual getting up, the hovering over the crib, the delivery of child to my side when it seems there’s nothing left to do, but still: I can hear it all, I can feel it all, and not even the Ativan helps when your body is shouting at you to tend to your baby. So what’s next? Do I just check into a hotel for a night or two – seriously, we talked about that last night – to catch up on sleep? Or do I just ride it out? How long can I go without sleep? How crazy will I get?

Mama said knock her out.

(And, and… how long can I go on just barely coping? I have an out-of-control inbox – I am seriously weeks behind in responding to e-mails – and an ever-lengthening to-do list and – worst – a backlog of things that I need/want to write about – my frustrations searching for my long-lost brother, my ongoing struggle to figure out how not to be dominated completely by my nearly three-year old daughter, some thoughts on raising children under the condition of post-modern capitalism, an anecdote or two about politesse as it pertains to penises, etc, etc. My brain is backlogged and cramped and sore and all this sleeplessness is making it worse. Is it possible for one’s brain to simply explode?)

Seriously. If my husband were to bring up the issue of vasectomies right this minute? I’d give him one myself.

Update: Last night (Friday night), he slept over eight hours straight. EIGHT HOURS. No idea why. Things we did differently: kept him up a bit more in the day, so that he had two longer naps rather than multiple shorter ones, put darker curtains on his nursery window to block more light, and put him to sleep in a snuggle (modified, arms-free swaddle) blanket. Will repeat these steps today and see if it works again. Whatever it is: AM SO ABSURDLY, MANICALLY GRATEFUL.

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    Sarah Lena November 6, 2008 at 12:58 pm

    So. What my husband finally made me do was turn off the monitor.

    I know, I know; it sounds awful and you imagine DHR is around the corner, waiting to seize the child for neglect the minute you click the wheel to “Off”, but believe it or not, your baby WILL cry loud enough to hear when he needs you. Without a monitor.

    Those little noises that keep us up at night.. the sighing, giggling, rustling, all of it.. are not vital to hear. The baby is fine.

    And sleep? Is of paramount importance.

    ((hugs))

    Her Bad Mother November 6, 2008 at 1:07 pm

    Sarah Lena – jasper’s nursery is directly adjacent to our bedroom. and he’s LOUD. so, no monitor to turn off.

    even with a pillow over my head – yes, I’ve been doing that – I can still hear it all loud and clear. even with me down the hall in the guest room – CAN STILL HEAR.

    Expat Mom November 6, 2008 at 1:34 pm

    I vote for hotel because, yes, you can go crazy and though I`ve never actually SEEN a brain explode, I`m pretty sure they can.

    My kids are 1.5 and almost 3 and NEITHER of them sleeps through the night! Exhaustion is my middle name. It sucks. If you can afford a hotel, do it, you`ll be a better mom for it.

    ewe are here November 6, 2008 at 1:36 pm

    I vote for the hotel, seriously. Or sending Jasper to a trusted friend or relative for a night or two in a row and let them cater to him, or send your husband with him. You HAVE to get some sleep.

    I’m sorry it’s so hard right now. Babies can be tough.

    Shannon November 6, 2008 at 1:37 pm

    How long does he cry for if you let him cry it out? Like the whole night without stopping? Or an hour? Two hours? My instinct says let him cry as long as it takes. (And I had 2 babies who cried for 90 min. the first night they CIO) But if he literally can keep going forever then that won’t work.

    Have you tried taking Jasper to a chiropractor? If you’re not a chiropractor-person then it may seem very dramatic and awful. But a good chiropractor will be extremely gentle (no big snapping or cracking like in adults). We had a wonderful chiro who explained to me that in a very normal birth with no interventions of any kind exerts 75 pounds of pressure on a baby’s spine. You had a more traumatic delivery with the speed of it and I would expect that would have been hard on Jasper’s spine. He could be experiencing discomfort when he is laid down that he can’t tell you about.

    Most people think taking an infant to the chiro is unsafe but they are very, very safe and I took my son to the chiro when he was just a couple of days old. But I’ve had more than one friend who had the baby from hell that never slept at all and after a couple of visits to the chiro they started doing MUCH better. They said it was like a switch had been flipped. I didn’t find this made a difference with my colicky baby, but it has done wonders for others. There are no guarantees, but at this point, what does you have to lose? Good luck!

    I know this is sooo hard. My first didn’t sleep til she was 8 months old. So many long hard nights. I’m sending you all the positive thoughts I can. So very sorry you are dealing with this!

    Sarcastic Mom November 6, 2008 at 1:38 pm

    Oh GOD, Catherine, I’m just about 9 weeks pregnant with what will hopefully be my second child and STOP IT OMG JUST STOP REMINDING ME OF THE HELL I WILL ENDURE BEFORE LONG.

    But seriously, woman, get thee to that hotel, swiftly! And it damn well better have a masseuse on call.

    Sarcastic Mom November 6, 2008 at 1:39 pm

    Oops. Forgot my URL and way too anal to let that go.

    Maria November 6, 2008 at 1:40 pm

    Take a weekend away. You will like your baby a whole lot more when you can actually see him (and not the needy little monkey that has taken on the form of cuteness)

    kaila November 6, 2008 at 1:43 pm

    Go to the hotel, in your jammies even, and get yourself some sleep. However, a couple of days rest will just energize you enough to get all exhausted again when you come home. Good Luck!

    Amy November 6, 2008 at 1:45 pm

    Take a good hard look at the lighting in your house, both during the day and at night. During the day, even during naps, you want lots of bright light – natural if you can get it. At night, get things as black as possible, even if it means putting tin foil on the nursery windows.

    It sounds like the baby still has a screwed up day/night circadian rhythm thing going on.

    Couldn’t hurt.

    Then check yourself into the hotel and sleep for 36 hours.

    Hugs,
    Amy

    Karen Sugarpants November 6, 2008 at 1:46 pm

    Oh man…he is so much like Thomas. I second the chiropractor – it helped Thomas tremendously…and me too. Just make sure you get a recommendation from someone who actually takes their kids to one.

    Can you take a night off? I did that with Thomas around this timeframe – slept at my best friends’ house, breasts overflowing by morning, and hubs fed him with bottles. It was such a help just to gain perspective.

    Have you thought about putting that boy on Survivor? Me thinks he would take the prize. LOL!

    Wish I was closer, sugar. I’d take him for you in a heartbeat. Once our house is built, you’re welcome here for a break! That’s another couple of months tho.

    Karen November 6, 2008 at 1:47 pm

    another vote for chiro or cranial sacral therapy
    and ear plugs
    and best wishes for more peaceful nights, soon, soon, soon.

    The Flip Flop Mamma! November 6, 2008 at 1:52 pm

    Oh, you poor thing! But what a beautiful baby keeping you up. I like to joke that I haven’t slept in almost 3 years, since we co-sleep…but man, I feel for you!

    Kate November 6, 2008 at 2:01 pm

    I vote for the hotel option. AND for checking out ‘Good Night, Sleep Tight – The Sleep Lady’s guide to…’ (something long but basically blissful sleep for you and your baby!) Seriously, it is an amazing book that totally worked for us when I was in your shoes a while back.

    I like it because it is a great compromise between CIO and “sleep” in your bed. And it’s really easy to get the info you need immediately even if you’re so sleep deprived you can’t even see straight. Husbands usually like it too, because it gives them something very clear-cut to do with the baby who won’t sleep. It also emphasizes good naps – and at the right times and making sure your child doesn’t get overtired and therefore much less likely to sleep (silly babies!)

    Anyway, good luck! I hope you check in someone nice tonight and get a good 9-10 hours!

    Mary Helen November 6, 2008 at 2:08 pm

    No sleep really can make you crazy. It did me with my first. The thing with the whole cry it out deal is that you have to stick with it. They’re smart little creatures. If he figures out that you are eventually going to come and bring him to bed, he’ll never stop. The first night my husband and I did that I basically sat outside E’s door and cried right along with her. It took almost 2 hours, but she went to sleep. After that, it was a shorter time every night and soon it was no big deal.

    Our pediatrician told us all babies have sleep associations. Just like when we lie down in our beds with our pillows and blankets, we know it’s time to sleep, it’s the same way with babies, only they sometimes learn to associate sleep with the wrong things (breast, mom’s arms, mom’s bed) and the earlier you break it the better. It really gets harder the older they get.

    I wish I could help you out more. I’ve been through this and it always helps to share.

    Do the hotel thing.

    Meli November 6, 2008 at 2:10 pm

    My vote is for the hotel. You need to get some sleep and you aren’t getting it at home.

    When you get back and you’re rested then you can try CIO. It works but only if you aren’t exhausted.

    Heather November 6, 2008 at 2:11 pm

    Hotel = YES

    For me, being anywhere in the house where baby was made me super sensitive to all sounds, real or imaginary. I stayed in a hotel because it was JUST ME, no one to worry about, no one to keep me up talking, and I knew I couldn’t actually hear the baby crying.

    Avonlea November 6, 2008 at 2:23 pm

    I third/fourth/whatever the hotel. I remember how hard it is when your body is screaming at you to tend to your baby, but ohmigod, you just need some sleep or hallucinations will probably start.

    I had to go sleep on the first floor of our two-story house with earplugs in *and* a pillow over my head, so I could let DH take over sometimes. After I went back to work (and DH was staying home with the baby), there was one afternoon that I seriously considered a hotel room for the rest of the afternoon.

    Backpacking Dad November 6, 2008 at 2:30 pm

    Sometimes my wife wants to go to rehab. Because the commercials for “Happy Valley” and other places like that just look so nice.

    Do they have a rehab nearby?

    Erin, Nick and Merrick November 6, 2008 at 2:40 pm

    HOTEL-MOTEL-HOLIDAY INN…..name that tune ; )

    CIO worked for us, but not for everyone. Merrick was in our bed for about the first year of his life, anymore and I think I would be divorced!
    I was also the mommy crying outside his door, but it did get easier and less time crying after each night.

    HUGS!!!!!!

    the weirdgirl November 6, 2008 at 2:43 pm

    CHECK INTO A HOTEL! Seriously. And if you can find someone you trust, how about having a babysitter or mommy’s helper come for a few hours during the day, even if just for a couple days a week? And that’s not for you to get caught up on work… that’s time for you to get a nap in!

    Don’t worry about the work backlog either. Everyone will still be there when you get back.

    Heather in the 'shwa November 6, 2008 at 2:47 pm

    As a first time mum with a 10 week old that wouldn’t sleep for weeks, and now sleeps, but in a cruel twist of irony I got whammed with a bout of insomnia I actually went to the hospital yesterday morning I got so hysterical. (3 nights with zero sleep, the week before less than 5-6 hours total) I was reluctant to try something I know my criminal clients are addicted to, but man was it awesome. I found I could still care for him though I was a big foggy and my husband did most of the diaper changing because snaps were beyond my grasp.

    Ear plugs were a serious help for naps when there’s someone else who can hear the cries along with an Ativan (or half of one) – you might try those.

    Tina November 6, 2008 at 2:56 pm

    I recently put my 6 month old in the halo sleep sack which i had not used yet and was just gathering dust. i got a sleep through the night, and 2 2.5 hour naps yesterday that first day. it’s got a little swaddle wing-thing built in and the fleece is super soft. i was previously swaddling him with the miracle blanket and putting the sleep sack over that, but this little halo thing this worked like a charm. https://www.halosleep.com/

    Leandra November 6, 2008 at 3:09 pm

    You know, some countries use sleep deprivation as a form of torture. Get thee to a hotel, woman! You’ll be a new woman.

    The Boisterous Butterfly November 6, 2008 at 3:10 pm

    I can give you nothing but my sympathy, because it is a long time ago since my kids were little. I have no good advise, but worry about you nonetheless. You need about a week off by yourself. Can something like that be arranged without you feeling like a bad mother? I am very serious about this. You need time by yourself and not just to sleep, you need alone time. Please try to work this out somehow. Go stay with a friend or a relative and leave the baby with someone you trust and lots of bottles. No breastfeeding, that’s too bad. You have to think about your health first, sweetheart.

    Anonymous November 6, 2008 at 3:13 pm

    Hotel. And no guilt for being gone to get sleep. Baby will survive and he needs a mommy who has at least a bare minimum of sleep in her. You are way under and sleep deprivation is baaad stuff.

    Mimi November 6, 2008 at 3:33 pm

    Hotel. You need it.

    Me, because of the layout of our house, I could go hide in the den–two floors below the nursery, with a tv and pullout couch, and several doors intervening between me and the baby. World of difference.

    Sundry November 6, 2008 at 3:54 pm

    I cannot tell you how much earplugs have improved my nights. Now, before someone flips out and thinks I’m blissfully ignoring a screaming child, I can still *hear* everything, so if I know if I need to get up and tend to him. However, I was having a major problem of lying wide awake with adrenaline shooting through me at every little squawk and “BEH!” sound — the earplugs just provide enough of a buffer so I’m not over-reacting to a non-sobbing noise.

    Your sniglet sounds a bit more nocturnally athletic than my 9-month-old, though, and for that you have my deepest sympathies. Sleep deprivation both sucks and blows.

    justmylife November 6, 2008 at 4:08 pm

    A hotel for a night or two wouldn’t be a bad idea. You need sleep. ANd though I don’t think one’s brain could actually explode from being full, I have no doubt sleep might help.

    Marylin November 6, 2008 at 5:07 pm

    I definitely agree to a couple of nights in a hotel. I ended up being bundled off to my parents for a weekend away from my boys when our youngest was about 13 weeks. I just couldn’t take anymore.

    I went to my doctor’s, told them how I was feeling, saying that I thought, no, KNEW I had PND. They agreed, gave me some meds (I had been on previously) and told me I needed to get a break if I could. Even if it was only one day.

    Let me tell you – I was asleep as soon as I got to my parents’ house and I barely did anything but sleep that whole weekend.

    After that, I felt SO much like myself again.

    PLEASE take a night in a hotel if you can – I promise it will help.

    I know I’m just a random commenter, but if you need someone who’s been there (with an almost-3-yr-old as well) then feel free to drop me a line, ok?

    ((hugs))

    worldmomma November 6, 2008 at 5:31 pm

    That photo is so incredibly cute. Hard to believe such a sweet little face can turn into a crying machine, but I’m sure it can.

    Have you tried earplugs that you could keep in until the husband brings the baby to you (if necessary). It definitely dulls the pain and might even allow you to sleep through some of it. Is there another place in the house, farther from the baby, where you can sleep, like a couch? Can you ask your husband to not bring the baby to you one night? If he needs feeding, have a bottle ready for hubby to use? Or all three of the above? The hotel sounds great, but only lasts a night or two. It would be helpful to have ways to lessen the difficulties for you within the home as well.

    Best of luck in getting through this. Hopefully better sleep nights will be coming soon.

    crazylovescompany November 6, 2008 at 5:42 pm

    This is what I need to know. 36 weeks along with our first. Really? The 4th trimester isn’t so bad? because I’m sleeping lousy now, I can’t get comfortable to save my life, which means husband is sleeping lousy.

    Badness Jones November 6, 2008 at 5:49 pm

    Hugs. I wish I could offer some advice, but Bad is 23 months old and has slept through the night only once. At least your husband is trying to help. My husband has never once, in the 5+ years since our first child was born, gotten out of bed at night to tend to a hungry, sick or needy child. Sigh, at least he’s a great dad in daylight.

    Goldfish November 6, 2008 at 5:58 pm

    Do you know how much I look forward to your posts? I know that there is a light (somewhere) at the end of the first-year-or-so-of-breast-feeding-and-not-sleeping-and-not-recognizing-myself tunnel, even if I can’t see it right now. It’s just really, really nice to know that you are out there. And that we’ll make it! (I think….)

    Maggie November 6, 2008 at 6:20 pm

    My hubs and I have had that same discussion recently. I’m waiting till the financial burdens of the holidays pass, and then I will have a night to myself in a hotel. I hope you get yours sooner and tell us all about it so we can be jealous (and also for me gleefull in anticipation of my own night away!)

    Ms. Moon November 6, 2008 at 6:27 pm

    Hotel. Do it.

    Anonymous November 6, 2008 at 6:45 pm

    i was where you ar enow, almost 1.5years ago, but with only one child. GET THE TO A HOTEL, Dear. My husband is the one who “made” me do it. I fought him SO HARD on it, too. and an hour after checking in, I was in tears, missing my baby I just wanted to be with her. I was ready to check out, go home and deal with countless more days of no sleep because I felt bad for leaving. I acutally felt selfish. But I called my husband, and he told me HE needed me to sleep, SHE needed me to sleep. I NEED THE EFFING SLEEP. So, then I popped a pill, put on a bad movie and I slept. For 17 hours stright. then I woke, relived my bladder, ate, and I slept for another 12 hours. I cam home a much better wife, mother and me. do this for yourself and your family – you all need it.

    Jessica.

    Her Bad Mother November 6, 2008 at 7:20 pm

    worldmomma – he doesn’t actually so much cry as he does holler and hoot non-stop. LOUDLY.

    And he won’t take a bottle. We’re working on it, HARD.

    Her Bad Mother November 6, 2008 at 7:22 pm

    Tina – will look into halo sack. We were using a miracle blanket until he outgrew it, like, six weeks ago.

    Anonymous November 6, 2008 at 8:05 pm

    1. Can you still swaddle him or has he outgrown it? My husband used to swaddle our little ones into tight little bundles( I could never do it so neatly myself) and they would would quickly drift off.
    2. My second slept in her swing for about five months. It was the only thing she would sleep in. Whatever works.
    3. Will he take a pacifier? Again, a godsend for us.
    4. How much does he weigh? My doctor used to say that 14 pounds was the magic weight when they stop being so fussy.
    5. Are you breastfeeding exclusively? Maybe supplement with a bottle of formula at night…this is an old wives tale but it works.
    I know what you are going through. My first would not sleep at all and I thought I would lose my mind. With my next two children, I supplemented with one bottle of formula at night and they both slept for five hour stretches.

    Christy November 6, 2008 at 8:29 pm

    No advice, just you’re not alone. My 5 month old has decided to be even more wakeful than previously. It’s just so exciting to roll over and move and talk in the middle of the night. Until recently, half-swaddling her seemed to be working, but she has gotten too strong. I know this passes. I’m on my third baby. But when…? I’m also wondering how long I can go on in survival mode. I am sending you good sleep vibes.

    Sharon November 6, 2008 at 9:03 pm

    The one thing NO ONE has suggested is that you need some HELP. I’ve said it before, but you need some part-time nanny-ish type help. You need to be able to nap during the day, or go back to sleep when whoever is helping you comes to take over the kids. That is what saved me with my kids. It can be a family member, a student, etc. The $$ you would spend on a hotel would be so much better applied to a longer-term solution. What does Svetlana say?

    wherewiller November 6, 2008 at 9:55 pm

    I thought of you tonight as I was going home from work – they were giving out free samples of some herbal tea at Union Station, with the promise to induce sleep. Heh. Funny. Can I knock my kid over the head with the tea bag? Is that how it works?
    Although it’s nowhere near the same, I’ve had a rough week with baby being sick and me having to survive the workday on 3-5 hrs sleep a night. But it would be even harder if I was at home with 2 kids on that little sleep… I feel your pain.

    Her Bad Mother November 6, 2008 at 10:11 pm

    Heather/’shwa – I *am* taking Ativan, actually. LE SIGH.

    Dana November 6, 2008 at 10:19 pm

    Catherine, I wish I had some unheard of advice, or magic solution, but alas I’m just keeping you in my thoughts — sending good wishes for a peaceful night’s sleep and some calm.

    If I could send the Super Nanny to just take care of things while you rest, I would. I so would.

    We’re all here for you. We’re all sending good juju your way.

    fidget November 6, 2008 at 11:08 pm

    Hylands teething tabs

    srsly

    I say for baby AND you

    sleep like dead kittens… ok that was probably crass.. but I can promise you wont sleep like a baby all restless and such. They are like the time homeopathic nectar of the gods.

    Garza Girl November 6, 2008 at 11:13 pm

    I’ve been where you are. As a single mother of newborn twins, I thought I would literally die of sleep deprivation. I even went through testing for Multiple Sclerosis based on all the physical junk that happens as a result of lack of sleep.

    Here, after therapy, and five years of building a fortress of motherhood, is what I’ve learned:

    1. Believe in Benadryl, in its proper dosage. It can get the babies off their new horrific routine of no sleep.

    2. Speak outloud and with confidence. Even at that age, they can get the gist. “We are going to have a bath, have a bottle and go to bed.” Then do exactly what you say you were going to do.

    3. Have a glass of wine, calm down and talk to yourself. They can sooooo ready your sleep deprived anxiety that it ends up feeding into it. Bring the biorhythms all the way down to zen.

    4. Get help. Call anyone you trust. Go to bed yourself. My friends will tell you, I don’t ask for help, but I learned: “I need you to take my twins for two hours. I MUST sleep.”
    Beg if you have to, and if not, then pay someone to give you time to sleep.

    5. Don’t forget your humor.

    6. When my babies were about a year old, I asked my doctor for an antidepressant. It was a brilliant move and helped me immensely.

    Many hugs and empathy.

    @garzag

    Shannon November 6, 2008 at 11:53 pm

    (((HUGS))) what a nightmare for you.

    This must be the week of writing about sleep on blogs, I’ve read oodles of sleep posts and wrote one myself.

    Do try the Halo sleepsack, we swear by it and it really helped us. I wish I had better advice, but at this point you need to do whatever you can to get some rest.

    I totally feel you on the bottle thing and I’m there now – my almost-10-month-old won’t take one STILL and I’m going batty. We’re supposed to nurse our babies because it’s a good thing and then we really can’t ever get the booby out of their mouths.

    LawMommy November 6, 2008 at 11:57 pm

    There came a point, with my son, who is now almost 9 years old, that I felt my fragile hold on sanity slipping away. I started to think it would be nice to be dead because if I was dead, I would be able to sleep.

    Yeah. I knew I was in bad shape.

    Enter my father, who, in one of his kindest paternal acts, agreed to keep the baby over night, one night a week, for about 3 months.

    (He was breastfed, but, I was able to pump so my dad had something to feed him.)

    If a parental rescue is not an option, a cheap hotel would be second best.

    You have to get some sleep. You will start to hallucinate. You will start to question your own ability to keep breathing. You will start to have insane fixations. And I KNOW, I know so well, how impossible it is to allow yourself to fall asleep when you can hear the baby moving around or making noise.

    If you have a way to get away from the baby for one night so you can get some rest, do it.

    the calm before the stork November 7, 2008 at 12:01 am

    Thank you for this post and thank you to all your commenters!

    Tonight we had to go back to CIO — and while I was sitting on the couch listening to him cry, I saw your tweet, and landed here for the advice I needed!

    My boy is 11 months old. At 7 months we did CIO after the non-sleeping, nurse in bed, rocking till our arms fell off, circus of trying to “soothe” an “energetic” boy.

    It worked for a while. And then about a month ago, it fell apart. He could stand up in the crib. Shrieking, screaming, heretofore unknown levels. Waking up all hours, staying awake at all hours.

    Today, my husband and I called the pediatrician and she prescribed CIO. He screamed, he protested, and 75 minutes later he fell asleep. I think it wasn’t longer only because we had sleep trained before.

    All that to say, what I already said. Your post helped me.

    For what it’s worth, I vote for the hotel, and getting a night nurse (I’ve heard they exist and can put babies on sleep schedules), and day help so you can nap.

    Hugs,
    Julie

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