In my experience, it’s the woman in the relationship who wants the baby and then pressures the man to have him. And then, she feels rage at him, even if he is working to pay a stay-at-home mother, so there is a division of labor. Isn´t this insane?

What about thinking that a baby is a MAJOR job instead of dreaming of a fairy tale? What about not having a kid if you don’t want to make a huge sacrifice?

What about the man being angry at the woman to pressure him to be parent and to make him work more to allow her to take care of the baby? Wait, no, I forgot that men are adults and rational creatures. I forgot that they understand that life is hard and don’t blame others on the consequences of their own decisions. Too much to ask for women who feel entitled to be angry without rational reason.

It’s better not to get married and not to have kids. With the divorce rate in 50% (70% of divorces initiated by the women) and men losing their assets and their children in family court even so. I knew that.

But makes me sad that women are never satisfied, even with a loving husband, even with a man who has given up all his bachelor life to be with her, who works to support a mother to take care of his child, who want to his child to be cared for by his mother. There are good men out there but less and less because they are awakening to the fact that no matter they do, it will never be enough.

For women it’s never enough. There is always a reason to complain and to feel like a victim. To be angry. Men get married to have love and peace and what they get: a woman who is angry at them without reason.

Single moms do not have anyone to be angry at. So they can be free of these bastards called husbands. Please be a single mom and you will not have anything to complain.

I thought, “I seethe. I seethe a lot. Seems like 30 is early for menopause, but, what the f, there has to be some reason I am grinding my teeth all the time.”

I want to stay home with the babe, so I’ll pull the “I work full time AND…” fill in all the shoe size, bill pay, dog groomer tasks as well.

Poor him. You are so right. Not his fault though I don’t think it would kill a brother to remove 1 rotten thing from the fridge during 1 of the 27 times he opens it during the day.

I’m not sure how it happened, except to say we almost split up last year, and maybe the alternative looked a lot worse.

That being said, my husband lets me take naps and he does clean the house. But sometimes, I just want to get out without children and he freaks at the idea of looking after them both! To which I say, “HA! Try working AND looking after them!”

Then, in general, for WOHMs or WAHMs, there is the whole self-imposed vision of what a ‘mom’ does or should do – self-sacrifce and home-cooked meals and clean houses and running the household. Things based on what society has told us we should do.

For me, I think I have enough selfishness (or self-preservation) to know that I *need* to have alone time and down time. No, I don’t cook every night. There may be piles of mail on my kitchen table and dustbunnies under the couch, but without my downtime or without enough sleep, I get angry.

YES!!! Why do we complicate everything? We are living in an age of hyperparenting, cluttering our lives up with too much stuff, too many obligations, going here, there everywhere and not taking enough time to just be. My son is teaching me how to just be. And not to care about matching napkins and tablecloths, or the dust bunnies under the beds.

I used to criticize my husband when he folded the cloth diapers wrong, or filled the bath with 1/2 cm too much water. This really put a strain on our relationship. I had to give up control, and god damn it–lower my standards. Things don’t always have to be perfect. Once we stop being so hard on ourselves I think we’ll lose a lot of that anger…