Comments on: All About My Mother http://herbadmother.com/2009/03/all-about-my-mother/ Bad Is The New Good Tue, 07 Sep 2010 01:17:58 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Kris http://herbadmother.com/2009/03/all-about-my-mother/comment-page-2/#comment-26894 Kris Fri, 13 Mar 2009 03:25:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=658#comment-26894 My mom thinks she is the big helper, and in reality, she is more the kind of grandma that is hands off. I wish she was like your mom and admitted it.<br/><br/>Instead, I have memories of her telling how much she helped, while in reality she told me the day I brought my daughter home from the hospital, that she needed a nap, and then took off, while I struggled to get food. My mom thinks she is the big helper, and in reality, she is more the kind of grandma that is hands off. I wish she was like your mom and admitted it.

Instead, I have memories of her telling how much she helped, while in reality she told me the day I brought my daughter home from the hospital, that she needed a nap, and then took off, while I struggled to get food.

]]> By: Iheartfashion http://herbadmother.com/2009/03/all-about-my-mother/comment-page-2/#comment-26883 Iheartfashion Thu, 12 Mar 2009 14:19:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=658#comment-26883 My mom lives two doors down and I can count on two hands the number of times she's babysat, and then only for 2 hours max. But she loves my kids fiercely, and is an artist who spends time with the kids drawing and painting and sculpting and building a treehouse and being a "fun" grandma when we visit. There are times I wish for a helicopter grandma who would swoop in and clean the house and make dinner, but I can't imagine that I'll be that type myself. Some people are better at being fun than being nurturing and traditionally motherly. My mom lives two doors down and I can count on two hands the number of times she’s babysat, and then only for 2 hours max. But she loves my kids fiercely, and is an artist who spends time with the kids drawing and painting and sculpting and building a treehouse and being a “fun” grandma when we visit. There are times I wish for a helicopter grandma who would swoop in and clean the house and make dinner, but I can’t imagine that I’ll be that type myself. Some people are better at being fun than being nurturing and traditionally motherly.

]]> By: Beck http://herbadmother.com/2009/03/all-about-my-mother/comment-page-2/#comment-26826 Beck Wed, 11 Mar 2009 18:45:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=658#comment-26826 Wow thank you so much for writing about this. I call my parents the "me" generation. They love my son but it's really about their reflection - how great they look in his eyes. And god forbid they miss happy hour or trips to France or outdoing each other on toys rather than say starting a college fund. My parents were alot of fun -dancing, laughing and throwing parties. But my brother and I spent many days eating bread, butter and sugar sandwiches. And if my brother got to the bread first, forget about it. Wow thank you so much for writing about this. I call my parents the “me” generation. They love my son but it’s really about their reflection – how great they look in his eyes. And god forbid they miss happy hour or trips to France or outdoing each other on toys rather than say starting a college fund. My parents were alot of fun -dancing, laughing and throwing parties. But my brother and I spent many days eating bread, butter and sugar sandwiches. And if my brother got to the bread first, forget about it.

]]> By: Redstocking Grandma http://herbadmother.com/2009/03/all-about-my-mother/comment-page-2/#comment-26428 Redstocking Grandma Tue, 10 Mar 2009 16:34:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=658#comment-26428 I am the mother of four grown daughters and the grandma of a 22 month old, a 6 month old, and a 3 month old. Learning is be a grandma is a least as hard as learning to be a mother, especially since my mom has been dead for four years. Each daughter has very different needs and expectations. I am the mother of four grown daughters and the grandma of a 22 month old, a 6 month old, and a 3 month old. Learning is be a grandma is a least as hard as learning to be a mother, especially since my mom has been dead for four years. Each daughter has very different needs and expectations.

]]> By: Anonymous http://herbadmother.com/2009/03/all-about-my-mother/comment-page-2/#comment-26382 Anonymous Mon, 09 Mar 2009 16:52:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=658#comment-26382 I have to ask how the overnighter went? I have to ask how the overnighter went?

]]> By: Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com http://herbadmother.com/2009/03/all-about-my-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-26381 Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com Mon, 09 Mar 2009 16:22:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=658#comment-26381 Your depiction of your mother here reminds me of my father. My dad loved all the goofy, fun stuff of our childhoods and I love him for it =)<br/><br/>How did your mother like the newspaper article? Your depiction of your mother here reminds me of my father. My dad loved all the goofy, fun stuff of our childhoods and I love him for it =)

How did your mother like the newspaper article?

]]> By: Mamalang http://herbadmother.com/2009/03/all-about-my-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-26380 Mamalang Mon, 09 Mar 2009 15:49:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=658#comment-26380 Both of our mothers are single, and our fathers aren't in the picture. They both adore spending time with their grandchildren, adn sometimes it becomes taxing trying to keep it fair. I love that my children have their grandmother and aunt around to watch them and participate in their lives. We made an agreement very early on that we would always offer the chance to have the children to them before we look for a babysitter, but they were free to say no. We called it the right of first refusal, and so far it has worked out well. I don't feel like I'm overburdening them, and they get the time they want.<br/><br/>And since my hubby is deployed, I really don't know what I would do without them.<br/><br/>This isn't a comment on your situation...I'm merely trying to point out that we all need to make our situation work the best for everyone. <br/><br/>ANd you and your babies are gorgeous in that pic. Both of our mothers are single, and our fathers aren’t in the picture. They both adore spending time with their grandchildren, adn sometimes it becomes taxing trying to keep it fair. I love that my children have their grandmother and aunt around to watch them and participate in their lives. We made an agreement very early on that we would always offer the chance to have the children to them before we look for a babysitter, but they were free to say no. We called it the right of first refusal, and so far it has worked out well. I don’t feel like I’m overburdening them, and they get the time they want.

And since my hubby is deployed, I really don’t know what I would do without them.

This isn’t a comment on your situation…I’m merely trying to point out that we all need to make our situation work the best for everyone.

ANd you and your babies are gorgeous in that pic.

]]> By: LAVANDULA http://herbadmother.com/2009/03/all-about-my-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-26379 LAVANDULA Mon, 09 Mar 2009 15:24:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=658#comment-26379 catherine your mum sounds so awesome.she is who she is.and don't worry about jasper he will be fine.hope you and tanis have a blast in NYC!!! catherine your mum sounds so awesome.she is who she is.and don’t worry about jasper he will be fine.hope you and tanis have a blast in NYC!!!

]]> By: Little Monkies http://herbadmother.com/2009/03/all-about-my-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-26378 Little Monkies Mon, 09 Mar 2009 04:39:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=658#comment-26378 My mother is peeved that my husband and I are moving to his home state in a couple of years at my urging. "You'll be so far away from your sisters, and from me" she says, although we live a plane flight away anyway. We are moving to be closer to the family that will actually be intimately involved with our kids, help out and give us a break when we need it. I read a couple of comments about how these are "our kids" and yes, they are, but generations of families have grown up supporting each other. Is that so bad? <br/><br/>Loved this post and loved the article. Excellent. My mother is peeved that my husband and I are moving to his home state in a couple of years at my urging. “You’ll be so far away from your sisters, and from me” she says, although we live a plane flight away anyway. We are moving to be closer to the family that will actually be intimately involved with our kids, help out and give us a break when we need it. I read a couple of comments about how these are “our kids” and yes, they are, but generations of families have grown up supporting each other. Is that so bad?

Loved this post and loved the article. Excellent.

]]> By: newfiehun http://herbadmother.com/2009/03/all-about-my-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-26377 newfiehun Mon, 09 Mar 2009 03:37:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/blog/?p=658#comment-26377 OMG I nearly peed when I read the unscrew bellybutton=bum falling off... My mother told my kids THOSE EXACT WORDS. She is a GREAT grandma, by the way. Hope I grow up to be just like her :) OMG I nearly peed when I read the unscrew bellybutton=bum falling off… My mother told my kids THOSE EXACT WORDS. She is a GREAT grandma, by the way. Hope I grow up to be just like her :)

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