Comments on: Sufficient Unto This Day

By: Natasha

Natasha — Fri, 08 May 2009 14:48:00 +0000

Oooh: "Pain shared is halved; joy shared is limitless." That is interesting to think about. I like it.

I have wondered the same question, though.

I have been through times when nothing seemed to be working out well and everyone around me seemed to be suffering through something horrible and altogether I felt it was changing who I was and I no longer recognized myself and that scared me.

It's painful to work out your humanity online and yet painful not to.

I feel for you.

By: Robin

Robin — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 14:20:00 +0000

Thank you for this...for this irony of writing about what we cannot write about. To me, for me, that's what blogging has been all about.

I have struggled similarly, as we probably all have. There is much I don't write about, lots of backspacing in my house (and yup, on my phone). We do what we can do. It's good enough.

On a parting note, I send you a song...it's called "Cactus" by my favorite singer/songwriter, Ferron. Check it out if you want. I have a feeling it will be of help. As I read your post, I heard her singing the line, "...and remember, what is shared is also true."

Blessings to you and your family.

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 21:09:00 +0000

Sometimes I think it IS possible to overshare hurt. But I think it might be worse to take on more of other people’s hurt than is appropriate.

I’ve been guilty of doing both from time to time.

By: Marinka

Marinka — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 19:31:00 +0000

So terrifying. I’m so glad that she’s better. I think that’s the flip side of the internet–I mean, it brings us closer and we laugh together, but when tragedy strikes, we all feel it. Maybe it’s not the internet as much as life. No man is an island and all that.

By: Hollie

Hollie — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 14:23:00 +0000

I have followed you for years. Rarely commenting.

I think there are times that we simply do need to let the grief out and your family is going through a process. DOn't overanalyze what you want to share and what you dont, you are simply on a path many wont have to take.

You can never share too much. Watching a child die, is life transforming, when it is your own it changes who you are

I know this from personal experience. As I watched my Sam die it was the hardest day of my life. The days before are now all a mesh. Even 16 years later it is hard because the memory is forever embedded.

In the days ahead it is ok to break down, to close out the world, to regroup, to simply be. Some days will be better then others and when Tanner's journey here is done, dont forget to celebrate the best of him, and to smile, and laugh, and enjoy yours because that is what they would want for you.

By: Kim

Kim — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 12:24:00 +0000

Wow, so honest and so genuine. I just found your blog but look forward to reading more.

By: tinycandi

tinycandi — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 04:10:00 +0000

It’s your blog. You write for you. You write when you’re ready. If there are days when you can’t or don’t want to or need to or want to or anything in between…you just do what you can do when you can do it.

I love reading your blog. It’s just…real…you know? And it’s inspiring. I actually started a blog entry after reading one of yours. And it took me awhile to get the “courage” to share that post with the world. But I did. And I was thinking about you…and your courage.

I’m glad your daughter is feeling better. :hugs: And I hope you’re feeling a little better too, hun.

By: abomo

abomo — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 02:22:00 +0000

please keep writing. in a world that is so sterile, so separate, so divided – connecting with other humans by any means necessary is vital to our survival. IMHO. plus, on top of your tremendously gifted talent and blatant honesty, you seem like one cool chick I wouldn’t mind hanging out with on a friday night and talk about kids, life, love, loss, laughter…peace to you and your family…

By: Mrs. Wilson

Mrs. Wilson — Fri, 24 Apr 2009 22:54:00 +0000

I think that with this whole “community” thing – I think we need to support one another when that person is in need of support – and if you’re hurting, you should share your hurt (if you feel so led). When you feel like sharing unicorns, do so. When you’re hurting, share your hurt.

That’s my two cents.

By: KC

KC — Fri, 24 Apr 2009 18:39:00 +0000

The other thing I forgot to mention - sometimes, when I do share some personal stories, it's for the express purpose of trying to help others avoid some of the same traps I fell into. I write not just to get things off my chest, but really, hopefully my honesty could help someone else so that they don't have to go through what I have and so they don't have to feel so alone in dealing with similar issues. I feel posting personal struggles is not just worth it but actually needs to be done. Sometimes not talking about things means you won't be able to help that one person (or more) going through similar issues. I think the whole purpose in life is to help each other through it. I think the internet is a great way to give and receive help, even if it's just psychological support to each other.

I honestly wish there were more people talking honestly and from the heart about family life and some of the more difficult aspects (illness, depression, etc). Not to joke about it, or ridicule it, but to realize that we all have our capabilities and our limits and they ebb and flow with the events that happen to us. There's only one way out of this life, we need to help each other while we can.

Sharing our personal stories thoughtfully, honestly, and respectfully is a good thing. Sharing ideas, advice and positive support for one another is a WONDERFUL thing. I would not know as much as I do now about Selective Mutism if I hadn't been able to share stories with other moms through the internet.

Peace,
KC