Comments on: The Bad Mother Manifesto

By: Sticks And Stones | Her Bad Mother

Sticks And Stones | Her Bad Mother — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 20:21:39 +0000

[...] I pulled her away from the stroller and her brother and brought my hand to her bottom, that was a bad parenting moment for me. If you had seen it, you might have thought so, too. But I do not think that it was my [...]

By: Headless Mom

Headless Mom — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 03:29:10 +0000

How the hell did I miss this? I will kiss you if/when I meet you in Chicago, and I damn sure hope it’s ‘when’.

Perfection!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 04:57:36 +0000

Loved this entry and love your blog. SO true and so honest. Finally, another mother I can relate to.

By: LopsidedMom

LopsidedMom — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 08:17:22 +0000

Whoa, reading the comments from this post was a little like riding a coal car into the mine...they kept getting darker and darker.

My screen name should tell you where I stand on all of this, but the truth is, as much as I love blogging, I can only take parenting blogs (the Bad and the Good) in small doses. It's fun to visit other people's worlds and opinions, but ultimately if you're buying anything hook, line and sinker, you're not being true to yourself. And for me, being true to myself allows me to be the best mama I can be for my munchkins.

Then again, it is 2 AM and I am a pregnant insomniac, so what the hell do I know? Oh, and that comment from the "husband of a good mother" 20 or so back? *blink, blink*

By: Crazy Mother

Crazy Mother — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 00:10:27 +0000

i call myself a crazy mother.

it pretty much means the same thing.

By: planetnomad

planetnomad — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 21:35:30 +0000

I know I'm late with this, and I haven't read the other comments, but I just wanted to say that I LOVE how you made the "Good Mother" both spank and never spank and co sleep and never co sleep and stay at home and go to work. YES! I so don't get the "mommy wars." I think they arise from the deep insecurity of knowing that we're all making mistakes and saddling our kids with baggage in spite of all our efforts, but from a strange unwillingness to admit this. It's a way of distancing ourselves, the way when we read of some kid going to a school and shooting his classmates, we look for clues of a trouble home-life–it helps us sleep at night cuz it won't happen to us. But all the "mommywars" do is derive us of much-needed support.
Anyway, rambling here, but I really enjoyed your post. I guess I'm a Bad Mother too–my daughter would certainly agree!

By: Ms. Knitpicky

Ms. Knitpicky — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 17:07:24 +0000

Fuck yeah. Does anything else really need to be said?

I've found some of the most vocal, judgemental, and aggressive pushers of the Good Mother are, in fact, men. Good Enough really is good enough.

By: Rita

Rita — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 13:24:24 +0000

I feel so much better after reading this.I thought I was a good mom I love my children more than life ,but my oldest daughter seems to think I didn't fill the good mother profile.I was beating myself up you made me fel better, I am glad I am not the only one who isn't in the good mom profile.This is one of the best posts I have ever read Thanks again

By: Annie @ Cookies

Annie @ Cookies — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 12:59:16 +0000

Ahhh…..honesty! I appreciate it and applaud you!

By: Kat... with a crown

Kat... with a crown — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 12:28:20 +0000

Love the post!
First time reader, and I am hooked!