http://herbadmother.com/2009/12/of-shoes-and-ships-and-sealing-wax-and-hoarding-stuff-and-things/ Bad Is The New Good Wed, 08 Feb 2012 18:10:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://herbadmother.com/2009/12/of-shoes-and-ships-and-sealing-wax-and-hoarding-stuff-and-things/comment-page-1/#comment-32383 sisterofahoarder Tue, 29 Dec 2009 12:36:10 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1348#comment-32383 Honey, I hope you seek professional help. Remember, we're all ants in this whole big universe. You can't take it with you! I'm not being mean. But really, you can't take it with you. It's what's in your heart and soul that matters most. Honey, I hope you seek professional help. Remember, we’re all ants in this whole big universe. You can’t take it with you! I’m not being mean. But really, you can’t take it with you. It’s what’s in your heart and soul that matters most.

]]> http://herbadmother.com/2009/12/of-shoes-and-ships-and-sealing-wax-and-hoarding-stuff-and-things/comment-page-3/#comment-32382 sisterofahoarder Tue, 29 Dec 2009 12:24:02 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1348#comment-32382 I've read every single post here. I do think it's an excellent post. However, and I dare to throw out the bone... Don't you ever wonder, just once... don't you ever wonder what might your life had been like had you not grown up with a hoarder in your life? Did you keep it a secret? Were you ashamed? I'm asking because even though I knew my sister was a hoarder from early on (even if I didn't know the term hoarder), I WAS ashamed. I WAS embarrassed. I DIDN'T understand. Yes, I loved my sister. Yes, I wanted her to be happy. At the same time, I wanted her to grow up and smell the coffee. Without the show Hoarders, these posts might never have been. Thank you for posting, and sorry to have been controversial. But my sister has caused our family and especially me A LOT of pain. I’ve read every single post here. I do think it’s an excellent post. However, and I dare to throw out the bone… Don’t you ever wonder, just once… don’t you ever wonder what might your life had been like had you not grown up with a hoarder in your life? Did you keep it a secret? Were you ashamed? I’m asking because even though I knew my sister was a hoarder from early on (even if I didn’t know the term hoarder), I WAS ashamed. I WAS embarrassed. I DIDN’T understand. Yes, I loved my sister. Yes, I wanted her to be happy. At the same time, I wanted her to grow up and smell the coffee. Without the show Hoarders, these posts might never have been. Thank you for posting, and sorry to have been controversial. But my sister has caused our family and especially me A LOT of pain.

]]> http://herbadmother.com/2009/12/of-shoes-and-ships-and-sealing-wax-and-hoarding-stuff-and-things/comment-page-3/#comment-32381 sisterofahoarder Tue, 29 Dec 2009 12:14:56 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1348#comment-32381 Well, I've been living with my sister's hoarding for over 30 years, and I'm still trying to save her. She's not just a tinkerer, or someone interested in electronics... She's got a huge problem. Does it mean I don't respect her hoarding? Oh yeah, you bet I do. She's tantrummed on me more times than I know what to do anymore. She's made sure that every one around her is unhappy as she is... Does that mean I am still not trying. Don't get me wrong... I totally appreciate this post, if for nothing to get my own frustration out about how hard and trying it is to have a hoarder in one's life... Yet I'm still trying! That's why I'm a proponent of the show Hoarders. At least it's brought to the public eye. At least it's no longer a "dirty little secret." At least it opens a dialogue with my sister... Well, I’ve been living with my sister’s hoarding for over 30 years, and I’m still trying to save her. She’s not just a tinkerer, or someone interested in electronics… She’s got a huge problem. Does it mean I don’t respect her hoarding? Oh yeah, you bet I do. She’s tantrummed on me more times than I know what to do anymore. She’s made sure that every one around her is unhappy as she is… Does that mean I am still not trying. Don’t get me wrong… I totally appreciate this post, if for nothing to get my own frustration out about how hard and trying it is to have a hoarder in one’s life… Yet I’m still trying! That’s why I’m a proponent of the show Hoarders. At least it’s brought to the public eye. At least it’s no longer a “dirty little secret.” At least it opens a dialogue with my sister…

]]> http://herbadmother.com/2009/12/of-shoes-and-ships-and-sealing-wax-and-hoarding-stuff-and-things/comment-page-2/#comment-32380 sisterofahoarder Tue, 29 Dec 2009 12:07:43 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1348#comment-32380 Cleaning up a hoarders house is NOT cheap. I would suspect they would have to sign a contract before hand that they could film, etc. However, if my sister, who is a hoarder, does not change, I'm sure it will cost my family upwards of $25,000 to clear out and clean her house. I'm sorry, but I don't have an extra $25,000 in my back pocket to pay for the removal of rubbish. In fact, it would probably cost more. So yes, the show is a little exploitative... however, I'd rather watch this where some good is done than the exploitation of Jon and Kate's eight children, for example. Cleaning up a hoarders house is NOT cheap. I would suspect they would have to sign a contract before hand that they could film, etc. However, if my sister, who is a hoarder, does not change, I’m sure it will cost my family upwards of $25,000 to clear out and clean her house. I’m sorry, but I don’t have an extra $25,000 in my back pocket to pay for the removal of rubbish. In fact, it would probably cost more. So yes, the show is a little exploitative… however, I’d rather watch this where some good is done than the exploitation of Jon and Kate’s eight children, for example.

]]> http://herbadmother.com/2009/12/of-shoes-and-ships-and-sealing-wax-and-hoarding-stuff-and-things/comment-page-2/#comment-32379 sisterofahoarder Tue, 29 Dec 2009 12:02:17 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1348#comment-32379 You're not a hoarder unless you have GOAT PATHS through your house and the floor to ceiling garbage in EVERY room of your house. Don't worry about the spiral notebook thing. You will get to it when you get to it. Grief is one thing... Hoarding is a complete different thing. Trust me. You’re not a hoarder unless you have GOAT PATHS through your house and the floor to ceiling garbage in EVERY room of your house. Don’t worry about the spiral notebook thing. You will get to it when you get to it. Grief is one thing… Hoarding is a complete different thing. Trust me.

]]> http://herbadmother.com/2009/12/of-shoes-and-ships-and-sealing-wax-and-hoarding-stuff-and-things/comment-page-1/#comment-32378 sisterofahoarder Tue, 29 Dec 2009 11:58:32 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1348#comment-32378 I absolutely agree with you! I absolutely agree with you!

]]> http://herbadmother.com/2009/12/of-shoes-and-ships-and-sealing-wax-and-hoarding-stuff-and-things/comment-page-1/#comment-32377 sisterofahoarder Tue, 29 Dec 2009 11:46:05 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1348#comment-32377 May God watch over you, Moses. What a terrible ordeal you've been put through. Yes, hoarding is often associated with Paranoid Schizophrenia. May God lead you to happier times without focusing on the things in your life that are NOT your fault. May God watch over you, Moses. What a terrible ordeal you’ve been put through. Yes, hoarding is often associated with Paranoid Schizophrenia. May God lead you to happier times without focusing on the things in your life that are NOT your fault.

]]> http://herbadmother.com/2009/12/of-shoes-and-ships-and-sealing-wax-and-hoarding-stuff-and-things/comment-page-1/#comment-32376 sisterofahoarder Tue, 29 Dec 2009 11:43:00 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1348#comment-32376 Don't waste your emotions over this! It's not good for our little brains. If need be, hire someone just to chuck it all. Don't allow yourself to be saddled with it. When it doubt, THROW IT OUT! What you don't know is sometimes better... Don’t waste your emotions over this! It’s not good for our little brains. If need be, hire someone just to chuck it all. Don’t allow yourself to be saddled with it. When it doubt, THROW IT OUT! What you don’t know is sometimes better…

]]> http://herbadmother.com/2009/12/of-shoes-and-ships-and-sealing-wax-and-hoarding-stuff-and-things/comment-page-1/#comment-32375 sisterofahoarder Tue, 29 Dec 2009 11:41:10 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1348#comment-32375 Maybe do watch the show. You might find that you are not alone with your feelings of resentment. According to the show, over 3,000,000 people are hoarders. Personally, I think it's a lot higher. Tinkerers and electronics junkies do not count as hoarders, in my humble opinion. The sad fact is, whether mother or father or sister or brother, a hoarder WILL affect your own life... and although I DO understand it's a brain chemistry thing, a mental illness... I'm still really angry! OMG! I mean, just recycle your G.D. newspaper for goodness sake! Maybe do watch the show. You might find that you are not alone with your feelings of resentment. According to the show, over 3,000,000 people are hoarders. Personally, I think it’s a lot higher. Tinkerers and electronics junkies do not count as hoarders, in my humble opinion. The sad fact is, whether mother or father or sister or brother, a hoarder WILL affect your own life… and although I DO understand it’s a brain chemistry thing, a mental illness… I’m still really angry! OMG! I mean, just recycle your G.D. newspaper for goodness sake!

]]> http://herbadmother.com/2009/12/of-shoes-and-ships-and-sealing-wax-and-hoarding-stuff-and-things/comment-page-1/#comment-32374 sisterofahoarder Tue, 29 Dec 2009 11:30:10 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1348#comment-32374 I get what you're saying, but I don't get it. My oldest sister is a hoarder, and she's miserable and unhappy. I do watch the show Hoarders because I want to find out what makes these people tick. My sister has been miserable since as long as I can remember. She wasn't happy just to be miserable in silence. Oh no! She had to bring us all down with her. Yes, it is a mental illness! Yes, it's very hard to over come. But if I can watch Hoarders, and perhaps glean some information from it that might, just might, perhaps help my sister, then I'm going to watch. Personally, I'm really sick and tired of being brought down by my sister's unhappiness. I honestly can't stand it. Good for you that you can be so understanding. It literally gives me the dry heaves after 30 plus years of watching the destruction. Everything about the Hoarding show is true! Hoarders do blame their unfortunate lives on everyone else... I mean, my poor mother! My sister used to yell and scream and tantrum at my mother (I was probably only 10 at the time when it started) about how my mom RUINED my sisters life. My sister was only in her early twenties at the time. I mean, dang it, that's when I started to live. So I'm sorry for your troubles, but Hoarders do affect those around them. Those around them want the Hoarder to be happy. From what I've seen, Hoarders like to wallow in their own self misery. I'm still trying to decide if I have the courage and where-with-all to cut my hoarder sister out of my life. WAY TOO MUCH wasted energy. And, may I ask, where were you while your dad was hoarding? I'm living it. Sounds like you were able to live your own life? I'm not given that option. I get what you’re saying, but I don’t get it. My oldest sister is a hoarder, and she’s miserable and unhappy. I do watch the show Hoarders because I want to find out what makes these people tick. My sister has been miserable since as long as I can remember. She wasn’t happy just to be miserable in silence. Oh no! She had to bring us all down with her. Yes, it is a mental illness! Yes, it’s very hard to over come. But if I can watch Hoarders, and perhaps glean some information from it that might, just might, perhaps help my sister, then I’m going to watch. Personally, I’m really sick and tired of being brought down by my sister’s unhappiness. I honestly can’t stand it. Good for you that you can be so understanding. It literally gives me the dry heaves after 30 plus years of watching the destruction. Everything about the Hoarding show is true! Hoarders do blame their unfortunate lives on everyone else… I mean, my poor mother! My sister used to yell and scream and tantrum at my mother (I was probably only 10 at the time when it started) about how my mom RUINED my sisters life. My sister was only in her early twenties at the time. I mean, dang it, that’s when I started to live. So I’m sorry for your troubles, but Hoarders do affect those around them. Those around them want the Hoarder to be happy. From what I’ve seen, Hoarders like to wallow in their own self misery. I’m still trying to decide if I have the courage and where-with-all to cut my hoarder sister out of my life. WAY TOO MUCH wasted energy. And, may I ask, where were you while your dad was hoarding? I’m living it. Sounds like you were able to live your own life? I’m not given that option.

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