Comments on: This Is The Way The World Ends, Not With A Bang, But A Haircut http://herbadmother.com/2010/02/this-is-the-way-the-world-ends-not-with-a-bang-but-a-haircut/ Bad Is The New Good Wed, 08 Feb 2012 18:10:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Tammy http://herbadmother.com/2010/02/this-is-the-way-the-world-ends-not-with-a-bang-but-a-haircut/comment-page-1/#comment-33731 Tammy Sun, 07 Mar 2010 23:58:43 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1658#comment-33731 How beautifully said. Helps for me too, who spent a goodly part of a "nap" (you know, the thing you fake to get your 4 year old to sleep) memorizing the quality of the light on his face. 'K, really, I am not obsessed, but I do feel the passage of time. And sometimes it makes my heart swell. .-= Tammy´s last blog ..<a href="http://laviecevenole.blogspot.com/2010/03/highways-and-byways.html" rel="nofollow">Highways and byways: to Laramie via Laguna.</a> =-. How beautifully said. Helps for me too, who spent a goodly part of a “nap” (you know, the thing you fake to get your 4 year old to sleep) memorizing the quality of the light on his face. ‘K, really, I am not obsessed, but I do feel the passage of time. And sometimes it makes my heart swell.
.-= Tammy´s last blog ..Highways and byways: to Laramie via Laguna. =-.

]]> By: Maya http://herbadmother.com/2010/02/this-is-the-way-the-world-ends-not-with-a-bang-but-a-haircut/comment-page-2/#comment-33716 Maya Sat, 27 Feb 2010 08:06:27 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1658#comment-33716 I understand. My 12 month old son's hair is getting long. I don't think it's terrible long, just starting to curl over his ears. In the past few weeks everyone has been commenting on "how looong" it's getting, and with that the implied suggestion to cut it. I can't. I won't. I think baby boys like delicious and teeny with their long, fine curls and he won't be this way for long. As soon as he gets a haircut it's like you said, he'll be a boy. So, I'm going to hold on to my baby just a little bit longer. .-= Maya´s last blog ..<a href="http://marfmom.com/archives/1741" rel="nofollow">Friday Favorites</a> =-. I understand. My 12 month old son’s hair is getting long. I don’t think it’s terrible long, just starting to curl over his ears. In the past few weeks everyone has been commenting on “how looong” it’s getting, and with that the implied suggestion to cut it.

I can’t. I won’t.

I think baby boys like delicious and teeny with their long, fine curls and he won’t be this way for long. As soon as he gets a haircut it’s like you said, he’ll be a boy. So, I’m going to hold on to my baby just a little bit longer.
.-= Maya´s last blog ..Friday Favorites =-.

]]> By: Even Rapunzel Cut Her Hair, Yo | Her Bad Mother http://herbadmother.com/2010/02/this-is-the-way-the-world-ends-not-with-a-bang-but-a-haircut/comment-page-2/#comment-33708 Even Rapunzel Cut Her Hair, Yo | Her Bad Mother Fri, 26 Feb 2010 17:28:34 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1658#comment-33708 [...] something vaguely ironic about the fact that I am championing haircuts for girls just days after flipping out over haircuts for boys, but that had nothing to do with gender and everything to do with OH GOD MY BABY IS GROWING UP SAVE [...] [...] something vaguely ironic about the fact that I am championing haircuts for girls just days after flipping out over haircuts for boys, but that had nothing to do with gender and everything to do with OH GOD MY BABY IS GROWING UP SAVE [...]

]]> By: Her Bad Mother http://herbadmother.com/2010/02/this-is-the-way-the-world-ends-not-with-a-bang-but-a-haircut/comment-page-1/#comment-33598 Her Bad Mother Tue, 23 Feb 2010 02:00:39 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1658#comment-33598 *sigh* I know. *sigh* I know.

]]> By: Her Bad Mother http://herbadmother.com/2010/02/this-is-the-way-the-world-ends-not-with-a-bang-but-a-haircut/comment-page-1/#comment-33597 Her Bad Mother Tue, 23 Feb 2010 02:00:01 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1658#comment-33597 I would love for either of my children to have Farrah wings in their hair. I would never ever let anyone cut it. I would love for either of my children to have Farrah wings in their hair. I would never ever let anyone cut it.

]]> By: Her Bad Mother http://herbadmother.com/2010/02/this-is-the-way-the-world-ends-not-with-a-bang-but-a-haircut/comment-page-1/#comment-33596 Her Bad Mother Tue, 23 Feb 2010 01:59:19 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1658#comment-33596 Emilia didn't get her hair cut until well after turning two, because it was so wispy. And yes, I choked up for that, too. Emilia didn’t get her hair cut until well after turning two, because it was so wispy. And yes, I choked up for that, too.

]]> By: Judy http://herbadmother.com/2010/02/this-is-the-way-the-world-ends-not-with-a-bang-but-a-haircut/comment-page-2/#comment-33551 Judy Mon, 22 Feb 2010 14:36:24 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1658#comment-33551 I can't tell you if it's sons or babies, because my son IS the baby - the one born after two daughters and a long spell with several miscarriages. Oh yes, babied! I do know, thought, that there is more of a feeling of discovery with a boy. We're used to the feminine growth patterns, and somehow it seems strange to have one of those Other Creatures as our child. There's a special something between a mother and a son. I can’t tell you if it’s sons or babies, because my son IS the baby – the one born after two daughters and a long spell with several miscarriages. Oh yes, babied!

I do know, thought, that there is more of a feeling of discovery with a boy. We’re used to the feminine growth patterns, and somehow it seems strange to have one of those Other Creatures as our child. There’s a special something between a mother and a son.

]]> By: Christa http://herbadmother.com/2010/02/this-is-the-way-the-world-ends-not-with-a-bang-but-a-haircut/comment-page-2/#comment-33550 Christa Mon, 22 Feb 2010 13:50:11 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1658#comment-33550 I have loved, loved, loved my two children. I have been a stay at home mum, and relished the role. My two are now 22 and 19, one about to finish university (and going to work abroad), and one about to start. I went through a period of adjustment, and I have to say, that now, I cannot wait for the next stage of life without always putting my children first. 20 odd years of being focused on them is a long enough job for anyone. The pleasure I get from seeing them as adults who have turned out better than I could ever have dreamed, is payment enough. It's my turn now! I have loved, loved, loved my two children. I have been a stay at home mum, and relished the role.
My two are now 22 and 19, one about to finish university (and going to work abroad), and one about to start.
I went through a period of adjustment, and I have to say, that now, I cannot wait for the next stage of life without always putting my children first.
20 odd years of being focused on them is a long enough job for anyone.
The pleasure I get from seeing them as adults who have turned out better than I could ever have dreamed, is payment enough.
It’s my turn now!

]]> By: Sierra Black http://herbadmother.com/2010/02/this-is-the-way-the-world-ends-not-with-a-bang-but-a-haircut/comment-page-2/#comment-33548 Sierra Black Mon, 22 Feb 2010 06:51:07 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1658#comment-33548 Oh, I feel your pain! A week before my second child was born, my mom took my three-year-old for an overnight to let me get some good sleep. When I went to pick her up the next day, her waist-length honey-brown curls had been lopped off in a cute, chin-length bob. Proof that Mom knew she was in trouble? In the two hours since the haircut, she'd had a dozen before-during-after photos printed and put into a little book, and also saved all the hair trimmings. I said, "Thanks mom. Next time you're going to take my firstborn child for her first haircut, could you at least let me know so I can come along?" She said, "I knew you'd never agree to it." Um... Then I went home and CRIED. I've never quite forgiven her. But it turns out she was right. Those beautiful curls were a beautiful pain in the ass. We fought about washing and brushing them almost every day. I still miss them, but I've kept the girl's hair short ever since. I realized that she had been starting to avoid certain types of play because her hair would get tangled or dirty and then she'd have to *gasp*horror*scream* wash it and let it be brushed. She has a whole lifetime to learn the "too pretty play rough" tropes. I don't need to help drive that lesson home with her hairstyle. .-= Sierra Black´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/Childwild/~3/VIzMg3AUldA/" rel="nofollow">Link Round-up</a> =-. Oh, I feel your pain!

A week before my second child was born, my mom took my three-year-old for an overnight to let me get some good sleep. When I went to pick her up the next day, her waist-length honey-brown curls had been lopped off in a cute, chin-length bob.

Proof that Mom knew she was in trouble? In the two hours since the haircut, she’d had a dozen before-during-after photos printed and put into a little book, and also saved all the hair trimmings.

I said, “Thanks mom. Next time you’re going to take my firstborn child for her first haircut, could you at least let me know so I can come along?”

She said, “I knew you’d never agree to it.”

Um…

Then I went home and CRIED. I’ve never quite forgiven her.

But it turns out she was right. Those beautiful curls were a beautiful pain in the ass. We fought about washing and brushing them almost every day. I still miss them, but I’ve kept the girl’s hair short ever since.

I realized that she had been starting to avoid certain types of play because her hair would get tangled or dirty and then she’d have to *gasp*horror*scream* wash it and let it be brushed.

She has a whole lifetime to learn the “too pretty play rough” tropes. I don’t need to help drive that lesson home with her hairstyle.
.-= Sierra Black´s last blog ..Link Round-up =-.

]]> By: Nikki http://herbadmother.com/2010/02/this-is-the-way-the-world-ends-not-with-a-bang-but-a-haircut/comment-page-2/#comment-33547 Nikki Sun, 21 Feb 2010 21:19:11 +0000 http://herbadmother.com/?p=1658#comment-33547 My boys are 17 & 11. Yikes! Did I just admit that? Yes I did!!! They grow up so fast. So, so, so fast! And sorry the bittersweet never stops. I cried when my oldest got his 1st cut at 2, definitely understand. I took the power in my hands with my youngest and learned to cut hair. Now I cut all my kids' hair and I have 5 of them .... hahaha. :) My boys are 17 & 11. Yikes! Did I just admit that? Yes I did!!! They grow up so fast. So, so, so fast! And sorry the bittersweet never stops. I cried when my oldest got his 1st cut at 2, definitely understand. I took the power in my hands with my youngest and learned to cut hair. Now I cut all my kids’ hair and I have 5 of them …. hahaha. :)

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