Hysterical

May 7, 2008

Hysteric – from the Greek, hysterikos – of or from the womb (uterus: hystera); suffering caused by the womb.

Yesterday, I went to the hospital. I wasn’t convinced that I was in full-on regular labor, but something was up, and I was concerned enough about what was going on – over two days of very painful, if irregular, contractions, and reduced fetal movement, and this after a full week of less intense ‘false’ labor – that I called my doctor and asked what I should do. The nurse on duty said, predictably, go into triage, better safe than sorry, this could be labor, it could something else, in any case we want to make sure that you and the baby are okay.

She also said, bring your hospital bag, just in case. Not having packed a hospital bag – because, you know, packing hospital bags just jinxes any possibility of a baby coming in a timely manner, yanno? – I gathered up my phone and camera and laptop, shoved a clean pair of underpants in my coat pocket and commanded my husband to drive.

The nurses at triage were wonderful, sympathetic, gentle women who said all the right things about me coming in and getting checked out and felt my belly gently as it contracted and contracted again and then hooked me up to all of those monitors and things and cooed soothingly as the heart monitor registered a healthy heartbeat etc, etc. Your contractions are registering as mild, they said, but of course that doesn’t mean that they’re not painful. Coo, coo, cluck, cluck, everything looks good, dear.

My doctor wasn’t in or on-call, so they called in a resident to examine me further. The resident did not coo or cluck. The resident sat down in a chair next to the hospital bed and looked me up and down. I’ve looked at the fetal cardiogram blah blah blah, she said. Everything looks fine, and you seem to be in very early labor. She paused again. But it *is* early. Why did you come in?

(Momentary stunned silence)

‘Um, because of the pain? The pain has been bad. Off and on, for days now. DAYS. Since early last week or so. And the baby wasn’t moving so much. So I called, AND THE NURSE TOLD TO ME TO.’

That can happen; it can go on for weeks; it can be painful, yes, but it’s perfectly normal. Your uterus is just getting ready for the birth blah blah blah.

‘I know, I know, but my doctor told me to come in straight away if the pains got worse. They got worse. And the baby, not moving, and I called the nurse and she said…’

Of course, of course, you did the right thing (fake cooing)

She pauses again, and flips through my file.

I see here that you’re a patient in the Reproductive Life Stages* program here at the hospital… *(RLS = Crazy Pregnant and Post-Partum Ladies Psychiatric Care Club, membership by referral only.)

‘YES WHY?’ (hysteria rising in voice)

Just asking. You’ve been feeling okay? Managing your anxiety? Have you spoken to them recently?

(Is she calling me crazy oh my effing god? IS SHE CALLING ME CRAZY FOR COMING IN HERE?)

‘A few weeks ago WHY?’

Just want to make sure that you’re not too anxious about this pregnancy.

‘I am anxious right now because I am in PAIN.’

I know, I know (fake clucking, jotting of notes that I KNOW say something to the effect of batshit loco.)

She pauses again. So, she says after a moment. What are we going to do with you?

*HEAD EXPLODES*

I left, after numerous sympathetic back pats from triage nurses who cooed kind things about not hesitating to come in again if the pains worried me, and promptly burst into tears. When I got home, there was a message on the phone from Reproductive Life Stages, ‘checking in’ on me: was I okay? did I need an appointment? At which point I might have burst into tears again, if I hadn’t needed to double over just right that minute to cope with yet another pain.

I’ll talk to my doctor about it, and she will, I know, shake her head vigorously and insist that I was absolutely right to come in, and that I must not hesitate to do so again, and that I should pay no mind to any real or perceived suggestion that my experience with this interminable false/early/whatever labor is anything but legitimately frustrating and worrying and that, again, again I must not hesitate to call or come in at any time if I’m in any way concerned.

But the damage has been done. If I wasn’t a basket-case before, I’m well on my way to being one now. If this baby doesn’t begin his emergence in some sort of very obvious, textbook way, I’m going to be reluctant to call again, ever.

Which means that this baby just might get born in our bathroom. In which case, those clean underpants in my coat pocket really will be a useless precaution.

(For the Countdown To Baby record, the contractions subsided in the night – so I got to sleep for a few hours for the first time in DAYS – but are back again and are hurting and would be it be wrong for me to hit the liquor, like, now?)

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    { 95 comments }

    Kelly May 7, 2008 at 11:50 am

    Oh, to not be taken seriously. To be made to feel a fool. I’m so sorry.

    You should never face questions like that when you’re just trying to make sure that everything is fine and good and well with the baby and you.

    Vicki May 7, 2008 at 11:52 am

    Hang in there hun! I’m pulling for you and praying for you and I think I even asked Buddah and Allah to help you out…Anyways, you are not crazy. When I was pregnant and already in the hospital I told the doctors to do an ultrasound because something was up. They made me wait 2 days for the one already scheduled and then had to do an emergency c-section to deliver my twin boys. Trust your instincts above all else. They will lead you through this. Just remember we’re all praying for you and your little one’s safe delivery.

    Niksmom May 7, 2008 at 12:11 pm

    FUMING with righteous indignation on your behalf. WTF?? I think you could’ve gotten off scott free if you’d b**ch-slapped the the resident! Seriously. Apparently she failed in bedside manner classes…

    Don’t be afraid to call your doc for ANY reason. I made that judgment error and now wonder “What if…” or if Nik would’ve stayed in longer than the 27 weeks he did.

    Sending you prayers, wishes, warm thoughts…and (virtual) martinis do dull the pain.

    Shannon May 7, 2008 at 12:29 pm

    Ughhh.

    You’ve spent the last nine months building a person, and now that 9 pound person is going to come swimming out your woofy. Just because women do it every day doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt. Scream all you want, I think you deserve it.

    And let that overeducated, underpersonalized resident know that you’ll be expecting a phone call when she’s in labour, so that you can cluck and tell her she really shouldn’t be making such a fuss and make her feel like she’s overreacting too.

    I can sympathize. I had written in my file “patient is oversensitive to pain” after my colonoscopy. (Yes, I had a colonoscopy and I’m talking about it on the internet.) My response was, you’re jamming a hose up my ass and you expect me to smile about it?

    Bah.

    Whirlwind May 7, 2008 at 12:37 pm

    Hang in there and don’t be afraid to go back. I was in and out of L&D many times with number 2. It was always early labor (and thyey stopped it). Once I was there in the morning and night. The last time I woke my husband up (about one hour after getting home from 14 hour nights and him falling asleep)and headed in. All the while thinking “maybe we should just turn around and wait it out”. He saying “you better be in labor this time, because I;m not leaving without a baby”.

    15 minutes after being admitted Meenie was born. So if we waited, I would have had her at home. That’s also the reason we were not allowed to leave when I went into labor with Moe – they didn’t want her to be born at home.

    Susie May 7, 2008 at 12:37 pm

    I wonder if this resident every had a child?!

    Margaret May 7, 2008 at 12:44 pm

    Hey I went in totally thinking I was in labor called in all the guns my childcare for first born, my midwife, my (also very pregnant) friend who had to call childcare for her first born, husband home from work ect…ect…just for it to quite and all head home.
    so what the doc could have told you is false labor and long early labor is more common in second baby’s and since seconds usually (sorry I can’t promise this but it was accurate for me and all my girlfriends) do come faster (dilating and effacing happen at the same time)you should go in and she should be more welcoming or she should find a new specialty fast! You will rock this just remember it is your body & your baby you know it best.
    What you need is a good doula to come to your house and make sure you feel in the know with your progress and then come with you to the hospital to keep that @*&% doctor in line it is amazing what a second set of ears can do.

    ScientistMother May 7, 2008 at 12:44 pm

    Obvisously not a person that should be doing ob/gyn services. Under no circumstances should you be made to feel like you’re crazy for being concerned about the health of yourself or your baby. I would let the hospital / department know about how she made you feel. Talk about idiotic care giving. Had she actually read your chart properly, she would’ve known the effect of her behaviour – she was just bad. You have every right to make sure the health of your baby and you is not in jeopardy. GoodLuck!

    Gidge May 7, 2008 at 12:45 pm

    What a bunch of dicks. I went to the hospital about 15 times the last three weeks of my pregnancy with the twins and I might’ve socked someone in the head if they had suggested I had gone to the hospital under “anxiety”.

    As far as I’m concerned, even if you (or I) HAD gone there for that, then they should help us and not be demeaning.

    What a Turd.

    You know if you kill her next time, you might be able claim hormonal insanity……

    GeekLady May 7, 2008 at 12:52 pm

    Have some chocolate and bask in the knowledge that you did exactly the right thing. Pretend the resident told you the earth was flat and treated you like you were crazy for insisting it was round, if that helps. If anyone should feel foolish over it, it’s the resident.

    Tact aside, there is a minimal level of professional patient-interviewing skillz… and this resident fucked it up. You never, EVER, EVER make a a patient feel stupid for following their doctor’s recommendation/orders/threats. Seriously. To do otherwise is just creating patients that don’t listen their doctors. Stupid thing to do.

    If you can do it absolutely calmly, file a complaint with the hospital over the resident implying you shouldn’t have followed your doctor’s instructions. Residents are still in training after all so hopefully she’ll catch some heat from her attending. I know in the US (in the better hospitals at least) patient satisfaction/dissatisfaction gets noticed. But it has to be done calmly, otherwise you get written off as crazy no matter how legitimate your complaint.

    Janet May 7, 2008 at 12:52 pm

    So I know the Labour and Delivery triage sees a bajillion women in a year in various stages of labour but, seriously, why do they need to be like that? When all through the pregnancy you’re conditioned to count fetal movements obsessively and report straight to the doctor with any concerns?

    When I was giving birth to my second, in the final throes of labour, pushing out her enormous melon head, apparently I was making some noises. Strange, I know. And the delivering doctor, who wasn’t my own OB because he was off drinking Mohitos on his summer holidays, gave me an annoyed look and told me the pushing would be more effective if I was quiet. Quiet. After she left, the nurse told me that doctor wasn’t feeling very well that day. Strangely I felt no sympathy for her. But I do for you. Hope the baby comes soon.

    Janet May 7, 2008 at 12:54 pm

    Also? Mojitos has a J, not an H. One should not simultaneously eat ice cream and comment on blogs.

    Jenni May 7, 2008 at 1:15 pm

    What a fucking tool that doctor was! Early labor is still LABOR. Why people like that even want to be OBs is beyond me.

    I was in early labor w/my son for two days, so I feel you. Not that you need any assvice here, but acupuncture helped the pain and my water to break.

    One more piece of assvice, have you tried nipple stimulation? It will most likely take your contractions from horribly painful to satanically painful (you know, the moment when you decided you’d rather keep the gigantic baby in you forever than go through anymore mindblowing pain), but it’s what finally put me into transition w/my son.

    Good luck, HBM, and I’m glad you got a little sleep before the new addition arrives.

    Jen May 7, 2008 at 1:28 pm

    When I was pregnant with my surro-son I had early labor for 2 weeks. At one point I went in and got checked out because I thought it was real, actual labor. The resident I saw laughed and said “No, this is just early labor. Trust me, you’ll know when it’s REAL!” I wanted to rip hs face off but instead I responded that I had had a baby before and this did feel like real labor and if it hadn’t I wouldn’t have come in because it’s not like I want to get cervical checks for the kicks. Sometimes doctors just flat out suck, no two ways about it. You have my sympathy.

    For moving labor along, have you tried squatting? Squat (with your legs spread way apart) every time you have a contraction. That can help make the contractions more effective and more “real”. Good luck!

    Karen May 7, 2008 at 1:28 pm

    I’d be more worried about you if you were not drinking or contemplating drinking. Nothing like a nice glass of wine to chase off contractions! Tell them to come back when they are going to get a baby out of your uterus. Resident not so super helpful in this case.

    catnip May 7, 2008 at 1:29 pm

    Just remember YOU WERE NOT WRONG. She was. I would totally file a complaint.

    Backpacking Dad May 7, 2008 at 1:34 pm

    Crap. I just wrote a long comment that got et.

    Gist? You are the best judge of your mental state. But you are not always in possession of all the information, and no matter how disprespectful your interlocutor is you oughtn’t treat their manner as a reason to disregard their recommendations, dismiss their intentions, or ignore their qualifications.

    This resident may very well be an incompetent jackass with no care for you, and with arrogance to spare and a checklist-first approach to patient care. But maybe this resident has also provided you with information about yourself that you can reflect on a little bit and do yourself some good.

    Still. What an ass.

    Mama V May 7, 2008 at 1:36 pm

    Umm…. as recommended by my uncle-retired-obgyn…. Have a drink… gin, specifically… it induces labour naturally. Worked for mine :) and might help you have a good night’s sleep tonight too.
    Hang in there!

    Her Bad Mother May 7, 2008 at 1:43 pm

    BP Dad – I hear ya, but… the thing of it was? She didn’t give me any recommendations. Her final remarks (“so, what are we going to do with you?”) were dismissive.

    I already know that I’m prone to anxiety, which is why I see a pre/post partum psychiatric doctor. My doctor knows this, my nurses know this (as my file clearly indicates) – but never in a million years would they suggest that any of my concerns over ongoing physical pain might be – to misuse the word slightly – hysterical. The suggestion to someone prone to anxiety that maybe their perspectives on what’s happening to their bodies is skewed because of that anxiety has the very damaging effect of casting doubt on the legitimacy of any concerns they might have. Which in the case of late pregnancy – if it causes one to hesitate before reporting a problem – can be very dangerous.

    Violet the Verbose May 7, 2008 at 1:44 pm

    I’m so sorry you had to endure that crap. I really do not believe there is such a thing as a bedside manner class, or even conversation, in med school. I’m convinced that they simply say at some point, once, offhand, on their way out the door, “don’t worry about bedside manner; patients are only bodies.”

    Hugs and I hope that everything goes well and you get to talk to your doctor sooner rather than later; at least you trust her, right?

    Amy May 7, 2008 at 1:45 pm

    The kind of treatment the resident gave you just burns me up.

    You DID do the right thing.

    (Beautifully written post by the way.)

    Holly May 7, 2008 at 1:46 pm

    wow… so not what you need. what anyone needs – pregnant or not.

    excuse me while I put my head back together as it seems to have exploded along with yours.

    one last thing. of course we need to examine all information given to us, but we should never, EVER be made to feel our instinct is wrong.

    Big Momma May 7, 2008 at 1:47 pm

    Hi!

    Delurking!

    The contractions with my 2nd born went from Sunday night to Thursday afternoon when he was born. I finally went to the hospital Wed. night. I wasn’t dialated enough to get a room, so I spent the night in triage. I also was hugely pregnant (more on that later).

    So, basically, the same stuff everyone has been telling you – every labor is different, yes you are in labor, fuck all the doctors who are condescending, and go with you gut.

    In my case, I had a midwife team, and the team got me up and moving, got the contractions coming along faster, and used the tub to manage the pain. My wonderful husband sat by the tub, held my hand, passed me washclothes, and didn’t talk and bother me.

    I had my 11 pound son without a epidural as a VBAC, after four days of labor.

    And hell yes, I’m proud of that. It was an amazing experience.

    So big baby, psychotic doctors, whatever – my prediction is that you’ll be fine.

    mommastantrum May 7, 2008 at 1:53 pm

    Um, that was not a resident…it was an escapee from the mental ward. I hope that they got her back to her bed and eating checkers promptly.

    I am sorry that you had to go through that. Please mention her to your doctor with TEARS, LOTS AND LOTS OF TEARS. One of the nurses that mentioned something nasty to me during a non stress test with Bacon got her ass fired because she DIDN’T READ FAR ENOUGH INTO MY CHART to see don’t say anything about “dead” to her.

    I think he will come out soon, and I hope it is in the bathroom, so that Kathie Tablecloth Wearer Lee Gifford can interview you on the Today show and act ridiculous about it.

    Good Luck!! We are all pulling for you!!

    Cynthia W Gentry May 7, 2008 at 1:54 pm

    My God, I felt enraged just reading this, and I wasn’t going through it. However, it did take me right back to my labor experience, which was fine until my $%&$%( epidural wore off. At that point, everyone up and down the L&D hall could hear me screaming. I hope you can take some consolation from the fact that your writing rocks.

    Back in the day when she was pregnant with me, my mom had a martini to move labor along. (Explains a few things.) I was born a few hours later. Not that I’m recommending you do the same…

    Backpacking Dad May 7, 2008 at 2:06 pm

    Yeah, the dismissiveness caught my attention. But again, treat it like information rather than judgment.

    What’s the information? At least one person, upon reviewing my case, has worries about my mental state right now. At least one person with a medical degree has those worries.

    It doesn’t need to be weighted much. In fact, if upon reflection you think that your phone call to the nurse was motivated by pain, then this information needn’t be weighted at all. But at least give yourself a chance to reflect on it.

    I know the post was about stupid, inconsiderate residents who make you want to strangle someone. But it also gives us an opportunity to worry about you and offer armchair, intrusive advice to someone we don’t know :}

    apathy lounge May 7, 2008 at 2:12 pm

    There’s a good segment of the medical community which, despite their years of education, treat pregnant women as though they are ticking bombs. Or–like you said–insane individuals with only the thinnest grasp on their emotional barometer. These people should be working with robots…not delivering babies.

    Stacey May 7, 2008 at 2:46 pm

    I had a similar experience when I was 38 weeks with my 2nd son. My hospital was an hour from my house, so it’s not like I would just drop in a whim but I’m fairly certain the resident that saw me assumed I just had nothing better to do that day & decided to hang out in the delivery ward and give her work to do. Man I was pissed.

    My wonderful OB told me to have a glass of wine with my dinner and relax.

    The Introvert May 7, 2008 at 2:55 pm

    Delurking to say OMG! I haven’t had a baby, but I have had to deal with lots of condescending doctors who don’t believe you when you say something is wrong.

    After years of doctors telling me my menstrual cramps were normal and sending me on my way with some ibuprofen, I finally got a doctor who listened to me, did surgery, and found the worst case of endometriosis he’d ever seen.

    Doctors like to forget that they work for you. Sometimes you have to be the one to remind them.

    Inzaburbs May 7, 2008 at 2:57 pm

    Number One on my list of pet hates: Condescension. Specifically being the recipient of it.

    I was in agony for 24 hours before the birth of my first. The before pains were actually worse than the labor. So I am totally feeling you and hope it will all be over soon.

    Funny about that dream. My friend gave birth in the bathroom and lived to tell the tale. Although she was apparently loud. When her husband went outdoors to meet the ambulance (which arrived too late) half the neighborhood was gathered around their front door – on their cellphones, reporting the screams to the police.

    marymurtz May 7, 2008 at 3:02 pm

    If men could be pregnant, they’d be handing out epidurals like candy at a parade, and labor and delivery would be a five-week vacation with snacks. But no—suck it up, sister, and try not to get any crazy on us. God, how infuriating!!

    daysgoby May 7, 2008 at 3:03 pm

    Fucking PRICK!

    Sorry – you’re eloquent and well-spoken and I know you don’t usually swear in this space….

    so I’ll do it for you. FUCKING PRICK!

    Your doctor will, I’m SURE, be taking strips off that resident’s hide.

    justmylife May 7, 2008 at 3:10 pm

    You want maybe we should track down this resident? *I swear it is my best Italian accent* Sorry the resident was so dismissive, being pregnant is hard enough without the crap from them. I picture this resident as childless, it is the only way to explain it.

    Christina May 7, 2008 at 3:12 pm

    You did exactly the right thing, and that doctor is an ass who needs further lessons in patient care.

    I know you’re about ready to grab a metal coat hanger and break your water yourself, but hopefully it’ll all be over soon.

    (One more piece of assvice – Evening Primrose Oil capsules, inserted up against your cervix, are supposed to speed up dilation. If you feel comfortable enough doing that, of course.)

    Beck May 7, 2008 at 3:21 pm

    Ah, false labour. I HATE false labour. And I also hate the way medical people can make you feel like a complete loon while in false labour, since contractions and being embarrassed just aren’t enough.

    Pamela May 7, 2008 at 3:56 pm

    Oh, what a bummer HBM. I’m 36 wks now but not in nearly as much misery as you…yet. I think you did well to hold yourself back from going into the hospital as long as you did, given what constant pain can do to one’s state of mind.

    kittenpie May 7, 2008 at 4:02 pm

    Some people just have no freaking bedside manner and shouldn’t be doing this stuff! Seriously. I had a bleed at five months last time, not a small one, but by the time I had lain around in triage for a couple of hours, it had stopped and was clearly down to a small quantity of old blood, and the doctor on call made me feel like a two-inch-tall twerp for coming in. Like I don’t know the difference between some tiny spotting and a bleed. and in your case, I think your nurse was right – you need to be on the safe side, and it’s not fair to make a pregnant lady at the end of her rope and nearly psycho from lack of sleep feel bad. So I say – good for you for not punching her. Well done!

    B May 7, 2008 at 4:31 pm

    HBM –
    As someone who just went through this in February (I commented last post about weeks long false labor) would it be possible for you to schedule NST’s (non stress tests) with the hospital? I was going in two or three times a week. It only takes about 30 minutes. The nurses hook you up and monitor your contractions and baby’s heart rate for 20 minutes if it’s all good they send you home. You don’t have to deal w/ any docs and you leave feeling reassured that while yes OMFG why aren’t I going into real labor already your body IS working and soon you will have your baby.

    nomotherearth May 7, 2008 at 4:41 pm

    I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been TOLD to go to the hospital, only patronized and given a look like I’m a total hypochondriac.

    For the record, I don’t think that a little alcohol at this late stage in the pregnancy could really cause much harm..

    Ree May 7, 2008 at 4:47 pm

    There is so much wrong with our medical system….don’t even get me started.

    Hugs babe.

    Melissa May 7, 2008 at 5:17 pm

    Heh, I had my second baby in the bathroom. There are worse things. For one thing, no one condescended to me (at least not until the paramedics came). Hope the little guy comes soon!

    Two Hands Full May 7, 2008 at 5:21 pm

    Oh my gawd I cannot believe someone said that to you. Awful!

    Coo. Cluck. Murmur.

    I hope that resident gets pregnant very soon ;) Needs hazing.

    I hope you get more rest!

    Two Hands Full May 7, 2008 at 5:22 pm

    Oh my gawd I cannot believe someone said that to you. Awful!

    Coo. Cluck. Murmur.

    I hope that resident gets pregnant very soon ;) Needs hazing.

    I hope you get more rest!

    motherbumper May 7, 2008 at 5:29 pm

    Hey that’s the same triage where the resident checking me out screamed “WHAT IS THAT?” while pointing at my belly. It was the piercing from my removed belly ring, freaking tards they let into med school eh?

    Sass E-mum May 7, 2008 at 5:30 pm

    What stinks, is that when you have your baby in your arms, someone – usually a doctor – will say, ‘you are the mum, you’ve got to trust your instincts’.

    Look at it this way. You ARE in labour. You are just going to spend a lot of it home around your family and your own stuff. That’s a good thing and better than bein in hospital.

    Err… just tell me to shut up now.

    Candygirlflies May 7, 2008 at 5:41 pm

    Sweetie.

    I highly recommend a couple of Tylenol (as long as your doc ok’s it), a nice warm bath, and lots of toes-up time.

    Rest, now.

    Thinking of you–

    CGF xoxo

    mo-wo May 7, 2008 at 5:58 pm

    I’ve been thinkin’ about you a bunch today. I wonder about the pain. I know there are labour connections but ALSO HAS ANYONE talked to you about the pain of being big major pregnant??

    It is not uncommon to have a lot of pain at this point. And someone should care. There is sort of a combination of the weight and the childspacing + breastfeeding history you might have that can really need attention. Ligaments conspire and sciatica can be so severe. Especially if you have been caring for a toddler for many weeks/months. It is not really addressed medically I would say but rather is a NEW WIVES tale.

    A good friend of mine had a LOT of trouble. Used some chiropractic effectively — btw she had her baby in the bathroom after all that in like 4 hours. Everyone said wow how easy did you have it? Uh, hello.. remember those three weeks I was in agony? Don’t worry I got mine, she says.

    I couldn’t really walk across the room in the last few weeks before my Mr little big guy was born. I did the ‘try to effing sit down do nothing treatment’ and got okayed for, what was it, tylenol?

    Don’t let the pain be an aside. It is something. It could be something else. Tho’ I am pretty sure it is like SOMETHIN’Else!

    She says oh so bossy.

    Easy does it.

    Woman on the Verge May 7, 2008 at 6:54 pm

    I’m so pissed off for you right now! The audacity of hospital workers (doctors, nurses, MAs) to think they have the right to treat us lowly non-hospital workers like complete crazy idiots! Bah!!

    Cynthia Samuels May 7, 2008 at 7:19 pm

    This kind of crap was supposed to be over a generation ago! What a way to treat a Famous Writer, Brilliant Professor, Gifted Mother and Wonderful Friend. And that it was a woman just breaks my heart. How could you NOT come in when the baby dancing had slowed? It would have been magnificently irresponsible. Don’t let them get to you my girl.

    Wishful Mommy May 7, 2008 at 7:37 pm

    That irritates me so much. I was even more surprised the doctor was a woman – not a mother I bet! I’m so sorry you had to go through that. It really sucks. But you did the right thing. Early labor is labor nonetheless and you will be birthing soon. Hang in there! xo

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