July 2010

nytjasper-blogherI was going to write a post about BlogHer. I was going to write a post about what it’s like and how to cope and why, really, really, nobody has any reason to be nervous or anxious because everybody is nervous and anxious, but then I realized, I’ve already written that post, like, almost a dozen times already, because this will be my fifth BlogHer, and I’ve probably written two or more posts about BlogHer for every year that I’ve been to BlogHer, whether speaking or keynoting or packing an infant around, so. I figured that I’d just link to the last one that I wrote about how important it is that we – collectively and individually – just chill the hell out about this thing that many of us are going to do next week.

Go read it. Or don’t. Either way, know that whether you’re going or not, it’s not the be-all and end-all of our collective existence, and you’ll be fine either way, we all will be, and when it’s all done there’ll be some bickering and bitching – there always is – but all in all we’ll all feel better for having this community, and we’ll all need a nap.

And some of us will be having tutus surgically removed from our bodies, but that’s a whole ‘nother story.

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